Good afternoon, everyone. I hope you are having a great day. Many victims are well aware that the way they are being treated is wrong and I feel compelled to warn you that if you are a target of bullying and decide to take a stand against the abuse, your bullies will not be deterred easily.
I know that in movies and television, we see scenarios where targets stand up to bullies and automatically either get left alone, or become friends with them. However, in most cases, this is not reality. Remember that bullies are relentless.
Here, I discuss the retaliation tactics that bullies often use when a target finally stands up for themselves and the attitudes bullies hold in regards to their targets:
If you are a target, you must realize that bullies will not relinquish their power so easily. They will not be a good sport and hand your human rights back over to you. They will not bow out of your life gracefully. They will not release you and let you walk away. Bullies have an insatiable need to wield power over another and without that power, they feel lost.
Make no mistake about it. When you kick unsavory people out of your life, they will first resort to either gaslighting- adding their own spin to make you look and feel like the villain and maligning you to others to destroy your good name and credibility. They may also lay guilt trips- trying to convince you that you are at fault or that the abuse is just your imagination. Bullies are masters at this, especially female bullies who use feminine charm to deceive bystanders and authority figures.
They may recruit followers and start a campaign of hate and viciousness against you, by way of rumors, lies, and trying to turn your friends against you. This occurred to me on a regular basis in school and it would happen as retaliation for my having the gall to stand up to them and assert my God-given, divine right not to be abused or taken advantage of.
Females, although becoming more and more physically violent with the passage of time, commit much of their bullying by Dividing and Conquering – attacking the targets’ relationships, using smear campaigns and witch hunts designed to turn everyone against the target- ’Isolation of the target’. They also use projection- projecting all of their own shortcomings onto the target. Bullies do have flaws and their greatest fear is having them exposed. What better way to keep their imperfections hidden than to either project them onto the victim, or use distraction- distracting others attention away from their own shortcomings and evil deeds by pointing out the negative qualities of their victims.
Bullies use the above strategies not only to cover their own backsides, but also for the purpose of closing their victims off from any possible help or protection. Once the target is isolated, the bullies move in for the kill. Now, they are able to do with their victim whatever they choose to do freely and with impunity because if everyone is against the victim, the least likely they are to report or stop the abuse. In the minds of others, the target deserves what is happening to them.
Bullies want to, in essence, hold the victim hostage and they will resort to any means necessary to keep him/her on lockdown- to keep the victim in their place. They will do it with physical violence when exclusion, subtle digs, verbal assaults, gaslighting and other forms of psychological abuse no longer have an impact, either by committing the bodily harm themselves, or sending someone else to do their savagery for them.
This does not mean that you should not stand up for yourself because you should. However, when you do, be prepared. The torment will get worse before it gets better.
Have a wonderful day.