Catch 22: Female Bully v/s Male Victim

Good evening everyone, I would like to address a situation, which almost no one talks about and is too often ignored- female bullying against male victims and why society gives male victims a bum rap.

I cannot count the stories I’ve both read and heard about males being harassed and abused by vicious females…boys and young men, who are, under normal circumstances, kind and caring but only pushed too far by their female tormentors before they finally have enough and strike back to defend themselves.

Unfortunately, after having been bullied for so long, the pressure builds to a breaking point. The poor guy finally decides that enough is enough and hits the girl back after she hits him first. As a result, HE gets the blame simply because he is a male.

Because the girl knows very well that society protects females due to the still widely-held belief that females are the weaker sex, she uses it to her own advantage by playing the “woman card” and feigning victimhood- complete with crocodile tears, rationalization and projecting blame onto her victim. The conniving and cunning female also deceives by acting sweet and innocent in the presence of the right people. She is silver-tongued. Therefore, she is a pro at spinning a convincing story to deceive authority while demonizing her victim…all to avoid being held responsible.

Although the poor victim is actually a great guy with good morals, values and ethics; to bystanders and authority, he is just another punk, who goes around beating up on girls/women. He ends up either being suspended/expelled from school, or arrested and charged as a criminal, while his female bully looks on with a smirk of gratification on her face. She then escapes punishment and goes on to select yet another male victim. Thus, the cycle continues.

If the young man didn’t hit her back, but only restrained her to protect himself, he would still be dehumanized and punished because he simply laid hands on her. Yes. You read this correctly…if someone physically attacks you and you restrain them, you can STILL go to jail as if you delivered the first punch because your hands were touching the person. It is impossible to restrain anyone without touching them.

This is just a sad example of how completely backwards school rules and the laws in this country really are.

Here’s a second catch 22:

A young man is being bullied relentlessly at school by a girl or group of girls. The girl(s)harass this boy for a number of years and during this time, the other boys also laugh and make fun of him because he is the bigger person and walks away instead of fighting back. They feminize him by calling him names, such as “wuss”, “wimp”, “pussy”, “bitch-boy” and other names which attack the male pride and strip away any masculinity.

The poor guy then reports the bullying only to be told to “man up” or “toughen up” and the boys only further shame him for being a “whiner”, “crybaby” or “tattle tale”.

Then, the young boy finally gets sick of the mistreatment and he snaps on one of the girls, battering her until her lip and nose are bleeding. Now, all hell breaks loose! The victim goes from being seen as a wimp to being seen as a little punk who gets his jollies by beating up on females. He is suspended, expelled, or arrested for assault and battery. Also, the boys now want to jump him because he hit a girl. The poor young man, although a victim, is now marginalized by the system, which is supposed to protect him.

So what other recourse does a victim have after having tried everything to protect himself and make the harassment stop?

My purpose is to open a few eyes and let society know that boys DO get bullied by girls…that more and more men DO get bullied by women. I believe this is because females are more prone to violence today than ever before in history, due to the significant moral decline of girls, which has taken place in the last 30 years.

However, understand that this article does not apply to male bullies, who DO go around physically or psychologically harming females but only to innocent male victims, who only want to be left in peace and live a normal life like everyone else.

If two men are at odds with each other and they resort to fisticuffs, they usually end up later patching things up, then going somewhere to have a beer together. Not so with women. If two women get into an altercation, chances are that they will not let go of their hatred of each other. A woman is like a dog with a bone. She will cling tightly to her grudge against her rival until the heavens come crashing down.

In closing, I will tell you that women are not always the weaker sex. I’m a woman myself and I know first hand that when it comes to evil, woman and girls can be the meanest, most disgusting, most relentless, most deplorable and most vicious of the sexes! In most cases of bullying and harassment by the opposite sex, victims who are male get a bum rap! This has to be brought to light!

It’s high time that we wise up, rip the fake mask off these vicious shrews and expose their misdeeds to as many people as possible in order to decrease the chances of other innocent men and boys becoming victims in the future.

Good night, everyone.

4 thoughts on “Catch 22: Female Bully v/s Male Victim

  1. We pretty much ALL know how this would end if the male victim turned around and smacked the female bully ONE TIME, even after MONTHS of her saying the cruelest, most hurtful things to him and about him known to man, even insulting his dead mother (if his mother were dead), and even making fun of his special needs sibling (if he has one). HE would most likely be the one getting into trouble, probably followed by tons of legal ramifications, and not to mention, a plethora of white knights would have probably jumped in and beat him up, to ‘teach him a lesson’, probably ONLY because they want to impress the female bully, hoping she will reward them by letting them get in her pants. Not to mention, his reputation would probably be destroyed, and he would be labeled a ‘woman beater’ for years to come. Yet if the bully were male, and if the victim were female instead of the other way around, the male bully could say ONE provocative thing to the female victim, and she could turn around and viciously slap him in the face, and most people would be claiming the male bully ‘deserved it’, and the female victim would probably get off with a slap on the wrist, if no consequences at all. i see this kind of thing all the time. Double standard at its finest.

  2. There is definitely a double standard on that. Part of the problem, because I try to be fair, is stereotype versus reality. One, look at domestic violence. Research has shown many times the female is the instigator but as you have stated so well, the “victim role” can easily be played because society hasn’t caught up with reality. Look at child custody battles in the courtroom. All the female has to say is that the father abused her or the children and that usually is the winning hand. Here is the thing, let’s look at facts. One, generally speaking men are indeed bigger than women but the operative word is generally speaking. Women have grown increasingly violent in the last 20 years and there are time when the female is stronger than the male. Two, because of society women know they can physically hit males yet still be able to play the victim card because even if he is bigger if he stands there and doesn’t defend himself he can be hurt. Third, as another user pointed out when a female socks a guy most women and even a lot of men think the guy deserved it, but if the guy were to do the same thing he is labeled a “slimeball.” Violence is violence and people from both genders have a right to defend themselves. No one should be bullied and sometimes you have to stand up to a bully regardless of gender. If someone is being mean to another person and hurting them, I don’t care if you are a girl or boy, you have a right to defend yourself within reason and it doesn’t make you a bad person.

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