The suicides of targets of bullying at school and in the workplace has gotten lots of media attention in recent years, driving home the sad truth of an epidemic of suicide among people due to bullying and abuse. What I cannot stress enough is that suicide is totally fruitless and counter-productive. People who take their own lives seldom think of the ramifications.
When you commit suicide at not just a young age, but any age, you cheat yourself out the possibility that things will eventually get better- the possibility of happiness, of fulfillment, and of any chance at a wonderful future. You also cheat the people who love you, setting them up for a lifetime of heartache and the years and years of the nagging question, Why? A question they will ask for a lifetime and never have answered.
Please realize that even though things may seem hopeless now, life can and most likely will eventually change for the better. As long as you are still alive, things can improve- and they can improve drastically. But taking your own life takes that chance away forever. Once you’re gone, there’s no coming back. You miss out on all the possibilities.
Suicide is not an escape. It’s not glamorous. And it is certainly not a way to obtain sympathy. The bullies and whoever else mistreated you won’t feel the least bit sorry about it— some, in fact, some might even be happy that you’re no longer around. The worst of them will even feel satisfied that they were able to control you so far as to end your own life! And you know what they’ll do then? Select someone else to torment and denigrate while you’re six feet under and forgotten.
Suicide isn’t a way to be remembered. People will mourn you, but only for a little while. Then they’ll move on with their lives— Life will go on after you’re gone. If I seem brutal and unfeeling telling you this, it’s because truth is both cold and hard and shock a little sense into any of you who are contemplating doing something that just isn’t smart, or worth it.
Before you make the decision to end your life, ask yourself these questions:
Is suicide something that you want to be remembered for?
Do you really want to give your bullies the satisfaction of knowing that they had the power of life and death over you?
Do you want to give them that power?
I would hope and pray you do not!
They already have enough power over you. Don’t give them any more!
If a bully tells you “go kill yourself,” ask the bully and ask yourself who that person is to decide whether you should live or die? In fact think about these questions:
Who are they to decide your worth as a human being?
Who are they to decide whether or not you’re good enough?
Who are they to decide who or what you are or should be?
And who the, um, heck are they to decide whether you should live or die?
(To be continued.)