When A Bully Get’s Physical, Should You Hit Back?

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It seems to be the question on everyone’s mind these days, especially in the notoriously politically correct climate in which we live. The media and politicians vehemently discourage fighting violence with violence. You’ll hear statements from others, such as:

“Two wrongs don’t make a right.”
“Turn the other cheek.”
“Don’t stoop to the bully’s level.”
And the all-time favorite,
“Be the bigger person and walk away.”

I’ve heard them all.

Yes, you should try more peaceful ways first, like walking away from the bully or reporting it to someone in power. However, what if the more peaceful solutions don’t work?

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If you don’t stand up for yourself, the bully will only continue to come after you and hurt you. You’ll be a punching bag for everyone who knows you at school or elsewhere. Because when word gets around that one person can hit you and get away with it, everyone else will think they can too and you’ll be the school or the community whipping boy. That’s no way to live.

In the middle of a physical attack, the last resort is the only option you have.

So, here it is:

When a bully physically attacks you, you have a God-given, primal, animal right to defend yourself from being harmed. I state this with full conviction!

If a bully hits you first, haul off and knock his block off! And when you do, don’t just give him a love pat. Deck the creep with the strength of your entire body- hit so hard that the bully has difficulty getting back up. Then unleash a hail of hard licks so that he doesn’t get up. Because once the bully gets up, he will charge you!

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Yeah. I know it isn’t the “politically correct” thing to do. But when someone is harming you, all that jazz about political correctness and being the bigger person goes out the window, and the gloves are off.

The only thing you should think of at this point is how to disable the bully so or give him such a bad memory that he’ll never even think about coming for you again. You aren’t a troublemaker or a brute for this, folks! It’s called self-defense!

This doesn’t mean bringing a gun or other deadly weapon. Lethal weapons will only get someone killed, and you put behind bars for the rest of your life. Never EVER carry a gun to school! It’s much better to put up your dukes and throw down when you must.

I’ll say again, punch the bully’s lights out! You may get suspended from school, fired from work, or even go to jail for a night or two. However, physical attacks are much more vicious nowadays and if you just let someone smack you around, they’ll only intensify the beatings until they hurt you bad enough to send you to the hospital or worse! And I’d much rather be suspended, lose a job, or spend a night in jail than to spend a month in the hospital or end up six feet under.

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I don’t condone fighting. Although I fought many times in school, I hated it each time I had to. I was a 5’4″, 120 pound girl being jumped and most of the time by multiple assailants, a male attacker, or a female much bigger than me. There were times when I was also boxed in where I couldn’t go anywhere.

There was no other choice. It was either fight, or risk my bullies possibly maiming or killing me. Sometimes the last resort is the only way to protect yourself and let a bully know that you’re not the one to mess with and that you aren’t afraid to fight back if necessary.

There will be others who may disagree with this post, and that’s okay. I am very thick-skinned now and rarely do I get offended. I can agree to disagree. But I will do what I have to do to protect my well-being and my life if ever I’m in physical danger.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on the subject!

18 thoughts on “When A Bully Get’s Physical, Should You Hit Back?

  1. I am a pacifist but also being one of the smallest in my class I was also not anyone to mess with. Perhaps it was my parents’ position (as teachers) but I never had an issue with physical bullying. My oldest son was bullied when he was in 3rd grade by a 5th grader. It was that bully’s worst decision. After he shoved my son during an after school program, he ended up on the floor with a fury wailing the daylights out of him. The bully was rescued by the staff. My son didn’t get in trouble as everyone knew what had happened. The bully spread the word that my son should be given a wide berth. He never had any trouble after that – all through school. So there is a time and place for physical confrontation and it can nip bullying in the bud.

  2. I would agree maybe it is controversial or doesn’t sound PC but yes you sometimes have to be willing to physically fight back. People have a right to self defense. Even in domestic violence situations if the woman attacks the man he has a right to defend himself within reason and if the man attacks the woman she has a right to defend herself within reason. Period! If you choose to put your hands on another person and you initiated it they have a right to self-defense. I know that isn’t popular and usually whoever comes out on the losing end wants to play the victim but the question is always who put their hands on the other person first. That applies to bullying as well. I know this is long so I will post this in two parts to make it easier to read. End of Part 1

  3. The other aspect of this is many bullies are cowards at heart. They pick on who they think is an easy target and many times they will push, punch especially in front of others to try to be the King or Queen of the Mountain. They last thing they really want is someone to physically test them because they have a lot to risk. If they happen to lose their power is gone and if they win well they got one over on someone who was already probably labeled an easy victim.

    And often times win or lose if you fight back they will back off and unfortunately find another target so that may get you some relief as well.

    Another aspect is sometimes they aren’t as tough as you think they are. Because they are a bully people PERCEIVE them as tougher than they may be.

    Also, in the case of male vs female bullying society is changing. As more and more women are learning to be aggressive sometimes girls are able to hold their own or even come out on the winning end vs a male. Society often tries to teach females to be a dasmel in distress and that is not always the case.

    Cherie, where he gets tricky is in a scenario like you described when it isn’t one on one but a group of people vs one person. The fear is even if you hold your own against one person, I don’t care how bad you are it is almost impossible for anyone to whip multiple people. That being said the mere fact you would fight back with the odds against you actually may shock the group in some cases of backing off and if a bully is trying to show in front of others allowing it to happen is a poor idea,

    Question for you Cherie. In your own life without naming real names has there ever been a time or times when you were forced to defend yourself in this way. What was the outcome, did it help? Was against a group of people, one female, one male?

    Also has there ever been any times whether it was physically fighting or even playing a sport or wrestling or boxing where you take on a male and held your own or even won?

    All these questions are being asked because I learned like you that sometimes you have to be willing to fight and sometimes you might just surprise yourself and what you can do.

    • I was forced to defend myself countless times and most of the time, I’d win the fight. However, I lost a few too. And there were times when I was jumped by more than one person.

      It was tough. Those years were the worst years of my life. But my life is so much better now.

    • I would be jumped by boys and girls. My case was different. I fought back, yes. But it only made the bullies angrier and they would send their friends after me to finish the job.

      So, no. It didn’t help matters any. We lived in a small southern town where everyone knew everyone. I ended up changing schools in the 12th grade because I feared for my life and the life of my unborn child.

      • Wow it makes it hard when you are pregnant! Let me ask you a question. Did you as an adult ever have to defend yourself against anyone? Or did you ever have a situation where you competed against another woman or a man in something physical like football, basketball, wrestling, etc an area where you had to show your strength? Did it build confidence or tear it down? Etc. I ask because I think sometimes people sometimes are afraid to be aggressive or embarass themself when they are more capable than they know. I know at times I have surprised myself and what I can do!

        • Absolutely. I had situations like that myself. Because I hated to fight but had no choice. And I was tired of getting into trouble with school staff and looking like the problem student. And at times, yes. It was very embarrassing.

          • I have found that in my life as a kid I wasn’t aggressive and rarely would say anything back to anyone or stand up for other people while as an adult I have gotten into a few battles and have found out athletically how competitive I can be as well. I peaked after high school

          • Absolutely. Bullies will pick on the quiet kid because they don’t think he’ll fight back. Bullies are cowards. But they often make a big mistake because still waters run deep.

            I’ve seen a quiet kid whip the crap out of a bully many times.

          • That is the thing. Sometimes the tallest, biggest, etc is actually not the strongest. That quiet kid who is civilized and knows that force is rarely the answer so people think he or she is a weakling when in fact they are more than capable of kicking some tail. I have and I hate fighting too but won fights against bigger opponents before or in sports won in basketball or wrestling against people taller than me but come to find out I was stronger than.

          • Right. And I think speed has a lot to do with it too. A bigger person naturally moves slower so a skinny person could fight circles around the bigger guy if the bully isn’t careful. LOL

  4. Yes you absolutely should fight back. For me it would’ve been worth the risk of getting expelled. I regret not fighting back in many cases, yet when I did try to fight back, my attackers overpowered me. And I always got in trouble.

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