A Deeper Reason Why Self-Acceptance is A Must

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Today, we live in a world that consistently judges us. It seems that people feel they have carte blanche to point a finger at someone else and announce their flaws and weaknesses. Sadly, this seems to be the norm.

Everyone is trying to be (or look) better than the next person and lord it over them. You see it in the media, you see celebrities calling out other celebrities in the Twitterverse and you see every day people doing it on the street, in the supermarket, workplace and at school.

What bullies don’t realize is that in pointing a finger at someone else, they only reverse it back on themselves. Because they’ve got to be pretty darned insecure with their own life to feel the need to disparage another person.

Anytime you come at another person without provocation, it either shows that you’re trying to hide or distract attention from your own shortcomings by trying to redirect the negative attention to someone else. In short, it’s only proof of your own lack of self-acceptance.

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Self-acceptance has always been a must-have but nowadays, it’s even more essential than ever before.

This is not to say that we shouldn’t be self-aware because we should. But too much self-awareness isn’t good because, when we’re hyper-aware, we focus too much on our weaknesses and not enough on our strengths. Sadly, this is what targets of bullying are conditioned to do after so long.

There are two extremes to everything but there’s also that happy middle that we should stay in.

We must work on changing the way we see ourselves and begin loving ourselves more because only then will we be able to love others.

If you can’t accept yourself, you won’t be able to accept others either. Being a bully doesn’t score any points and it doesn’t make you feel any better in the long run. It only makes you look like an insecure little coward.

As the old saying goes, “You do you and let me do me.”

4 thoughts on “A Deeper Reason Why Self-Acceptance is A Must

  1. True but as you know, the preteen and teenager have very little ability to withstand the pressures and expectations of the media and peer groups. I’m so lucky that my bullying occurred when I was an adult and I was able to hold on to who I was and what i believed. My bully never was able to break me since I was always in charge of my own happiness. I never ceded control of my life to her and it made her crazy…

    • Wow! I’m so proud of you for that! That was the best thing you could do for yourself. And you’re right about preteens and teenagers. And it’s because they don’t have the concrete thinking skills and processing abilities that adults have. Their brains are still developing.

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