Should the Opinions of Bullies Matter? (In-Depth)

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Recently, I wrote a blog post entitled, “Should the Opinions of Bullies Matter?” In it, I stated reasons why they shouldn’t and that the only opinions that should were those of the people who love us and want the best for us.

And it’s true. Bullies opinions shouldn’t concern us and for some targets, they don’t. but the more I thought about it, the clearer it became that maybe I should’ve added more to the post.

So, here goes!

Though bullies’ thoughts and feelings of you shouldn’t matter, it doesn’t mean their opinions can’t affect us.

The reality is that the bullies’ opinions of their target can have a huge impact on the target’s life. Their thoughts and feelings of the target can determine whether other people outside the bully/target conflict feel comfortable associating with the target.

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Although we don’t want to admit it and, no, it isn’t fair, the personal opinions of other people often are the deciding factor or whether we’re well-liked or lonely and hated.

Bullies influence the attitudes of others who otherwise either wouldn’t have an issue with us or would be great friends under different circumstances. The opinions of bullies have a way of spreading far and wide- making bullies out of those who, under normal circumstances, would never resort to mistreating another human being.

It’s amazing what a contagion effect bullying has on schools, companies, organizations and communities.

We must learn about bullying from all angles. Because the more we know, the better we will be able to salvage our good names and counter some the effects it may have on our lives.

12 thoughts on “Should the Opinions of Bullies Matter? (In-Depth)

  1. Cherie, this may sound weird but I cannot even remember the names of those that bullied me in school. I doubt very much if I bumped into them I probably wouldn’t know them.
    However, there is one big bully that I care not think about. Have told relatives not even bother to tell me when he dies. So, I don’t care about his opinions.
    I don’t hate him, do not wish ill, I just consider him someone who once crossed my path.

  2. I think it’s important to educate as many people as possible about what bullying is. You are right, innocent people may accept the opinion of the bully as simple fact, which makes gossiping equal to bullying’s twin.

    • That’s it! Bullies gossip to turn others against you. They need confirmation of their judgments of you and if they can turn others against you, those others will give the bullies the confirmation they seek!

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