As we all know, bullies are very practiced and convincing liars and have a flare for using charm to deceive bystanders and authority. Understand that this “charm” bullies often display is fake it is all a part of the smoke screen they put up to cover up bad behavior and avoid accountability. In short, bullies are only actors and actresses.
With that being said, here’s a list excuses that bystanders and authority often make for the bully anytime a victim reports them for their appalling behavior.
“That’s just his personality.”
“Boys will be boys” or “Kids will be kids”
“She’s only expressing herself.”
“Maybe you need to toughen up.”
“He just has a very strong personality.”
“Maybe you’re doing something to bring it on yourself and you don’t realize it yet.”
“She’s going through a hard time right now.”
“You’re just too sensitive and need to grow a thicker skin.”
“But he’s really a good person, he’s just having issues right now.”
“She’s just having problems at home.”
“Maybe you’re being too dramatic.”
“He’s just being himself.”
“Maybe she was just joking with you and you took it the wrong way.”
“But he’s so well liked and well mannered. Why would he bully someone like you?”
“But she’s so sweet and everyone loves her. She wouldn’t hurt a fly.”
These are several examples of how others justify and condone the bully’s behavior. Don’t fall for it! Call them what they are- BULLIES! Never accept any excuse.
It’s true that retaliation may follow. However, stay strong and know that you don’t have to tolerate atrocious behavior from anyone! If no one will listen, be sure to document document document every bullying incident in detail!!!!!!!