If you’re bullied in school, you must go through the proper channels by reporting the bullying to teachers and the principal. It’s only legal. But sadly, when a student is bullied and reports the abuse, many schools will protect the bullies instead of holding them accountable for their bad behavior.
Here’s why:
1. Because the bullies have connections to local politicians and crime kingpins. (This is especially true in small towns)
2. Because the bullies often score high academically, which makes the school look good.
3. The bullies are athletes on the school sports teams.
4. The bullies are on the cheerleading squad and in sororities and fraternities.
5. The bullies suck up to faculty to win loyalty.
Understand that, right or wrong, many schools will go out of their way to protect the reputations of who they deem to be their brightest and best students and blame the targeted student for their bullies’ horrid behavior. These bullies make the school look good.
Schools have enormous power, and sadly, many parents of bullied kids are single and raising children on one paycheck. How do they fight against such powerful entities?
This is why Sovereign Immunity for schools must be abolished, and they must be held accountable if the child is maimed, murdered, or commits suicide.
Moving a target of bullying to a different school sounds like a good idea but is not always feasible. And homeschooling isn’t affordable for some of these moms and dads.
If you’re a parent who’s fighting to keep your child safe and your options are limited, the only way to stay in the fight is to keep speaking out- through word of mouth, social media, the news media- whatever it takes.
In this situation, DOCUMENTATION IS SO IMPORTANT!!!!!
Take steps to raise awareness and be there for your child. Reassure them that if they need to talk, you’re there to listen and give them a shoulder to lean on.
Encourage your child to document every bullying incident and do your own documentation. Use the 5W rule- (What, who, where, when, and why) document what happened, who was involved and the names of any bystanders and witnesses, where it happened (bathroom, locker room, hallway), when it happened (exact date and time), and why it happened (retaliation, etc.).
As a parent, write about any physical bruises you see when the child comes home from school. Write about any torn clothing, broken eyeglasses or hearing aids, stolen property, crying, your kid’s emotional state- everything! And jot it down in detail!
Document the school’s reaction to any reports of bullying, both yours and your child’s.
Save any emails, replies, and letters from the school.
Build your own case!
Only then will you have the ammo needed to fight it!
Oh most schools are a joke when it comes to stopping bullying. Back in the day they did absolutely nothing. Now many school systems because they have been pressured technically “have a plan” but it is seldom enforced or is a slap on the wrist. It also often times come down to your status at the school. The quarterback of the football team, the cheerleading queen can get away with more (and of course some of them are very nice kids) because of who they are. It also depends on if parents are contributing to the booster club.
Exactly! School politics! Btw, I’m preparing your answer. Just to give you a head’s up- it may take a while to prepare your answers because there are several questions and I want to answer them in detail. I should have them sent by Monday.
“You asked for it”; “ignore him/her”; … that what’s always told to me when I reported incidents.
Unfortunately, that’s all too often what happens. My heart hurts for you.
Sadly you have to show up at the school and act fool! Then everyone will stay the hell away from your kid. So I say show up and show out!!!
LOL I hear you there! Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do to be heard and taken seriously!
So pathetic but yes you do 🤦🏽♀️
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But! The sad thing is that sometimes, the school then labels you as the crazy parent. I’ve heard about those incidences too. It’s so unfair.
They sure will and will be right! Try me not my kids 😂
Amen! 💯
This was pretty much all of elementary school for me, except the single mother part.
I’m so sorry to hear that, Greg.