What Happens When You Care Too Much About the Opinions of Others

A fellow blogger once wrote, “If you care too much about what others think, you care less about yourself.”

How right she was!

When you care too much about what other people think, you become a slave to not only opinions but to others as well. The person whose opinions you place too much value on owns you.

Any time you care too much about the thoughts and opinions of others, you’ll bend over backward to prove your worth. You’ll be a yes-person because you won’t have the guts to say no when you really should and when you truly want to say it.

You’ll do things you’d rather not do and agree with things that go against your beliefs and convictions. You’ll sacrifice your time, your resources, and yourself for people who don’t deserve it and let them take you for granted.

You’ll fall for other people’s BS and accept crappy behavior from them to avoid conflict. And they’ll see you as a pushover and an approval-seeker. You’ll be a doormat, and no one will have any respect for you. They’ll only think you’re pathetic!

You’ll kiss butt and eat sh** all for the sake of approval. Yuck!

You’ll only attract users, abusers, and losers, who’ll only deplete you of time, energy, and worst of all, self-esteem!

Even worse, your submissiveness will come to be expected after a while, and once you do finally get tired of being walked on and grow a spine, people won’t respect you for it but be offended by it.

‘You see, here’s the thing. If you truly know your value, you don’t have to prove it because you know it’s there. Even better, others see it too because they not only sense that others’ opinions don’t phase you, but they can see it in your demeanor as well.

So, stop caring what bullies and abusers think of you because they don’t deserve to even matter to you.

The more you know, the more bully-proof you become!

4 thoughts on “What Happens When You Care Too Much About the Opinions of Others

  1. Oh this one super speaks to me! I am guilty of this! I suffer from low self-esteem, always have. I take things to personally. I have a sense of humor but when people playfully pick back sometimes I overanalyze it. There is a difference between bullying and a little bit of playfulness. I love wearing bathing suits, always have but I often wonder would anyone else want to see me in one? And then there are things like texts. If I text someone and they take more than 5 minutes to respond, I wonder what they are thinking? Social Media if I start out with 500 friends, and the next day I have 499 then I wondered what I did to upset someone. I know that a lot of times someone deletes theirs or people unfriend for a variety of reasons. I have sent out 10 friend requests before and 8 accepted and 2 didn’t and dwell on why the 2 didn’t. I know my head a lot of people don’t accept strangers or perhaps they are in a relationship and don’t want to accept opposite sex people to upset their partner (I loathe jealousy) or they just aren’t adding people but I always think in my head it is personal. Instead of focusing on the 8 who did, I focus on the 2 who didn’t. It is sick,I know.

    • I completely understand. I used to.do the same with friends in the real world years ago (there was no internet back when I was in my teens and early twenties. Over time, as you get older, you’ll get tired of people’s crap and you’ll care less and less. It will be freedom like you’ve never known, sweetie. I promise you. 🙂

  2. This is very true. I grew up trying to please people aroung me. It made my life miserable. It gave me a lot of fears too. But after realizing this, through my walk with God, I am able to walk away from this type of mentality. It never is good to be concerned of others think about us. “The fear of man lays a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is safe.” – Proverbs 29:25.

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