How Music Helped Me Cope with Bullying

During the years I was bullied in school, I’d come Home in the afternoon, and take refuge in my bedroom. I would then turn on my stereo or play one of my cassette tapes (they were the thing back then) and get lost in the music.

I was a Prince fan and hairband girl. I’d put in one of my Prince,  Dokken, Motley Crue, Ratt, Judas Priest, or Skid Row tapes and rock out in the privacy of my bedroom. I would turn the music up full blast and have it blaring so loud the entire house shook.

Other days, I’d come home and boogie down to some Janet Jackson, Al B. Sure, Salt N Pepa, or Paula Abdul. I was into New Jack Swing hip-hop as well. And sometimes I listened to softer rock on the stereo, “Money for Nothing,” by Dire Straits, “Tell Me Lies” by Fleetwood Mac, or Springsteen’s “Tunnel of Love.”

For me, listening to music always helped me recover from a bad day and made me feel great. There was nothing like bebopping all over the floor in my bedroom to the beat of a great song. It seemed to make all my troubles and worries disappear. It was what made me feel alive!

Today, I still listen to those songs either through my music downloads, on YouTube, or I play one of my numerous Prince CDs.

The music of today just doesn’t have it- doesn’t have the heart and soul it used to. The music of today is all about “me me me- all eyes on me” and is doused with blatant, in-your-face sexual profanity, or it’s pity-party music, as I like to call it. Yuck! Who wants to hear that?

The music of my day was music that you could let your kids listen to without fear. Here are a few more reasons I prefer old rock over this new crap.

  1. Rock music from my era was about having a good time. It made you want to jump up and shout! New rock is too emo- it’s about “my partner left, and now I want to die,” or “Mommy and Daddy didn’t love me enough, and now I’m one messed up individual.” No thanks.
  1. Old rock didn’t have the blunt vulgarity that today’s rock has. What profanity we had in my day was more innuendo that went over the heads of most small children. Sadly, some of the lyrics in today’s songs are downright cringeworthy.
  2. I like old stuff. Old songs take me back to a time when life was much simpler.
  3. Surprisingly, I’ve noticed that many of today’s young people listen to music from my generation, which is refreshing! Because you know the music’s good if your kids like it too. My oldest son loves AC/DC and Ozzy Osborne, and just the other day, I had the pleasure of seeing a car full of teens riding around with Def Leppard’s “Pour Some Sugar on Me” blaring from their car stereo. Now that put a smile on my face!

‘You see? Back when I was young, if we were caught listening to music from our parents’ generation, we’d be ridiculed so hard by our friends and peers we’d never want to show our faces in public again. So, knowing that kids still dig music from our day is truly amazing!

Music is great medicine and has always picked me up. I can say without a doubt that I’ll be a devout music lover until the day I close my eyes!

Are there any music lovers out there among my community of blogger friends and readers? Feel free to comment.

21 thoughts on “How Music Helped Me Cope with Bullying

  1. I think musicians often enjoy the music of the predecessors (and I love me some Elvis, Buddy Holly, Lady Day, Ella, … — sorry, can’t name them all here! 😉 ).

    I’m reminded of one excellent example of what I’m talking about on a “related” (on wp.com) suggestion: Little Richard (Penniman) — see https://search.music.blog/2020/05/10/frank-zappa-covers-little-richard 😀 (or how about Ozzy covering John Lennon’s “Imagine” a few years ago?)

    Keep on rockin’ on!

    🙂 Norbert

    • Thank you so much! I like Elvis and all those previous stars too. And now we have all these rebooted music and remakes of 80s and 90’s music. It just doesn’t compare. And I can’t imagine Ozzy doing Little Richard. LOL

  2. I absolutely agree with your views of modern music! I love music and mainly listen to blues because I like how slow the melody usually is. But it is sad to see how poor the lyrics are. There are a few that are good but some are just really bad. Amazing post!

  3. Oh, I’m firmly stuck in the 80s post-punk and punk. I largely dislike most of today’s music for lacking depth and variety. I’ve become an old geezer I swore I would never become: “Quit listening to that trash! Back in my day, music…” [fill in the blank for the whatever I am surly about at the moment]

    😉

  4. YES!!!!!

    I’m a few years younger than you, if I remember right (born 1976). The music you’re describing in this post was my childhood. My teens and young adults I mostly associate with the grunge and “alternative rock” (I hate that word) of the 90s, and I also got into Christian music in my early 20s as I was finding my faith and getting more involved with church activities. After all, I’m sure you’ve noticed that I named my blog after a song lyric from that time period. I include a song with each post too.

    Before COVID, I used to have people over at my house every few months for 20th century video game parties. That is exactly what it sounds like; we would stay up really late playing old video games from the 80s and 90s, eating junk food, and listening to 80s and 90s music. Even though most people were there for the socialization, I took the playlist-making very seriously.

    I still do things the old fashioned way and buy music, although the majority of the time these days I buy it as a digital download instead of a physical CD. Most of the new music I have bought in the last 10 years has been either a few bands outside of the mainstream that I have been following closely for a long time or new music from old bands that were around back in my time.

  5. I did the exact same thing! Whenever I felt I had a bad day, or if I encountered someone rude or mean, I would listen to some music and it so helped me! I loved listening to “Mean” by Taylor Swift, I think that really helped me at the time.

  6. “The music of today just doesn’t have it- doesn’t have the heart and soul it used to. The music of today is all about “me me me- all eyes on me” and is doused with blatant, in-your-face sexual profanity, or it’s pity-party music, as I like to call it. Yuck!”
    So true! This has never been said better. Once while I was watching “Boy Meets Girl – Waiting for a Star to Fall” a person commented that I should watch a new group because they make 80s music. I search and watch and yeah, they don’t have that annoying overly “all about me” vibe but they also felt like a rip-off from the 80s. They failed to capture the spirit of the music. My coming-of-age songs are in the mid-90s but if someone was to make me choose I’ll choose music from 70s-80s. They got everything that touch my soul. Of course there was bad songs from that time too, but the thing is, the bad from then, still sounds soooooo much better than famous “best songs” of today.

    • You said it girl! And I loooove “Waiting for a Star to Fall” by Boy Meets Girl! That particular song takes me back to when I was dating my first serious boyfriend! I’m so blessed to have lived through such awesome and exciting times!

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