Understand that bullies thrive on power and control. If they can’t control you, they’ll control how others view you. They’ll also use redundancy and repetition to make you believe their lies too. Here’s what they’re most likely to try and get you to think of yourself and what you should believe:
1.What bullies want you to believe
Apart from us, you can do nothing, you are nothing, and you never will be.
What you should believe
Apart from you, I’m better off. I can do anything I set my mind to do, I’m somebody, and later down the line, I’m going to be great and do great things.
2. What bullies want you to believe
You’ll never find happiness without our permission.
What you should believe
I don’t need your permission to be happy. I’m much happier without a bunch of losers in my life.
3. What bullies want you to believe
Nobody will ever like or love you.
What you should believe
Maybe you never will, but I don’t mind because you don’t matter. There will be others who’ll love me for me. I’ll find my tribe.
4. What bullies want you to believe
You’re nothing without our approval.
What you should believe
I’m nothing with it because you are nothing. I don’t need your “approval” because it will never define me. Your opinion matters not because, for something to matter, you must first value it.
Always counter the statements, including the unspoken ones. You’ll be surprised at what it will do for your self-esteem and your spirit!
Interesting. I’ve had men tell me “No one else will ever want you!” They’ve been wrong and only validated my decision.
Oh, boy! I’ve had one of those too and they usually tell you that when they think you’re about to walk away from the relationship. Aren’t they pathetic? Lol
For some reason they think that will make a woman stay with them—to be totally insulting. Glad you walked away too. We don’t need to be companions of men who treat women like that.
Oooeee! You’ve got that right, girl! 💯