Bullies, Bystanders, Willful Ignorance, Self-Deceit, and Blind Hatred

Bullies with “Target Derangement Syndrome” hold extremely biased opinions about their targets- views that aren’t founded or developed from any evidence of facts. No, their judgments of the targets come from intense emotions alone. And no amount of data, substantial evidence, rational thought, or reason will ever change their minds about their target. These people are virtually unpersuadable.

I want you to realize that seeing the target as bad, evil, crazy, mentally imbalanced, weak, and inferior is too familiar to the bullies. It is the status quo. And it often takes someone who’s outside the toxic environment or bully/target dynamic to see the stuff those on the inside are blind to. Why do you think bullies also go out of their way to destroy the target’s reputation with strangers who haven’t yet met the target?

Understand that these bullies have overinflated egos. And the false stories and widely-held assumptions about the target provide the bullies these three benefits: a sense of power, dominance, and social acceptance. And any evidence that exonerates the target only threatens those three benefits.

The target may, in fact, be a great person who would be a great friend to them if they allowed. But bullies will block out that reality because it’s uncomfortable to them and would contradict them. They deliberately eschew any evidence that favors the target- and therefore, any truth to it because anything that proves contrary to their beliefs and opinions of their targeted victim would never fit their narratives.

Any evidence that disproves the bullies’ false narratives put the bullies at risk of being proven wrong and looking like the utter fools they are. Bullies won’t have that! Because it would be a massive blow to their fragile egos. Any facts in favor of the target, the bullies will either explain away, ignore, or destroy. Simply put. Not knowing the truth feels much better to them.

It’s why bullies purposefully keep themselves unaware of any proof that would be in favor of the target. Bullies go to great lengths to avoid being informed because they don’t want to be informed. If the target is such a great guy, the bullies don’t want to know about it! It’s much more convenient (and less painful) to hold onto their opinions- even if those opinions are false.

And if they hear much to the contrary, the bullies will then go hunt for evidence and information that supports their opinions.

They aren’t willing to engage in any thoughtful or intelligent discussion on it. If you try and hold such a discussion, you’re only wasting your time and energy, because if the opinions they hold come strictly from their negative emotions, you won’t change their minds. And it’s not your job to do so!

Deep down inside, your bullies know your potential and your worth. They already know how intelligent and creative you are. They’ve seen that you’re a team player, and you get along with a few others. They’ve seen how loving and caring you are. They know that you’re a great person; only they refuse to acknowledge it. So, is there a need to defend your honor in their presence? Everything about you speaks for itself.

If you’re a target of bullying, it’s tempting to defend yourself because it’s so hard to believe that anyone could be this deaf, dumb, and blind. So, you ask yourself, “Can anyone be this stupid?”

I hate to tell you. But, yes, they can. And they are!

The best thing you can do is to give these people the old heave-ho! Don’t even engage with them. They aren’t worth it! They’re only a waste of space.

Understand that getting rid of these people will save you so much time, energy, and mental stress. It will allow you to be so much happier and more confident in yourself than you ever thought possible!

30 thoughts on “Bullies, Bystanders, Willful Ignorance, Self-Deceit, and Blind Hatred

  1. Bullies operate under the warped maxium:

    Do unto others before others can do unto me.

    Because they set themselves up as the standard by which to judge others.

    They wrongfully believe that others will mistreat them simply because that is how they perceive and treat others.

    Never once realizing that by mistreating others they are signaling that is the way they want to be treated.

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  3. Hi. So this still maintains the premise that bullies use abusive, derogatory words against a person or class of people or perform destructive acts against others, right? Bullies are still instigators, right? Thanks!

  4. Also, is the target without emotional support and friends of any kind? I was following the discussion chain and suddenly the part about signaling the way the bully wants to be treated doesn’t give targets permission to retaliate in kind. We must never become bullies ourselves, right? I have been reading a lot of your personal posts and this is the one that doesn’t align with the motivation and inspiration. I might be confused so would love guidance. Thanks!

    • Gladly. There is nothing wrong with defending yourself. I encourage targets to defend themselves if bullies attack verbally or even physically. You have a divine animal right to do so. If you continue to take it in the chin and not jab back. The bullying and abuse will only escalate. I want you to realize that bullies don’t understand reasoning. You can never reason with bullies. The only thing bullies understand is power, strength and force and sometimes, you have to give them a healthy dose of their own medicine.

      Don’t start no crap and there will be none. Thank you.

      • I love your fierce spirit, Cherie. So, because l faced some direct racist attacks by bullies at work, l say this with much hesitation. There are special rules in workplaces and certain environments where we are only allowed to defend ourselves in certain ways. May l add that we need to know the rules and law because we don’t want to innocently end up breaking rules or laws. People can push us but l say do the research and understand our limits. Believe me when l say this because l have emotional scars from really major bullying and abuse. So much love for your blog and it’s mission🙂

        • I’m so sorry that people at your workplace are treating you so badly, Sue. I do agree that when you’re at work, there’s only so much you can do to defend yourself without getting fired, and the bullies know it. That’s what makes them the biggest cowards in the world! I know that you’re feeling trapped and I feel your pain.

          Racism is a downright abomination. Period. Full stop. Know that we’re all one race- the Human Race, and your bullies need to realize that. Know that there are people who care and wish you nothing but the best. Psst! I’m one of them.

          • Suffice it to say l no longer work at that place. I love the Human Race point. I wish we could get everyone to believe it. Imagine living in a world of peace and love. Thanks for your kind words!

          • I agree with you wholeheartedly. Unfortunately, it’s a very dark and evil part of Human Nature and it’s not right. Another horrible part of Human Nature is that many bullies search for someone they can make an enemy to align against. And they see anyone who is “different” as an enemy and they do it without provocation.

            We live in a fallen world and there are so many ignorant people on Earth. Ignorance is sickening.

  5. I put up a post about both sides have issues. Both sides have people with over the topic, inciting rhetoric. The only ones who came after me were Dems. They denied or even justified the rhetoric from their side. No one is the adult in the room these days. Those who do not condemn the rhetoric from their own side, bystanders, are actually showing their agreement with it. It is a sad state we live in these days.

    • It sure is. My heart goes out to you, Sharon. Know that you have a friend here.

      Bullies display the worst behavior, then try to make the victims look like the bad guy. Unfortunately, its not about right and wrong, but who has the power. And the person with the least power- who is least likely to fight back, gets the blame. It’s terrible.

        • I know. We’ve been duped by the NWO Elites. They pulled the Divide and Conquer strategy to deceive everyone. But that’s what bullies do. They use the Divide and Conquer strategy to isolate their targets. Cancel Culture is also a form of bullying- it’s the same as smear campaigns in the schoolyard and workplace.

          And bullying happens on many levels- from the individual and group level, school and company level, neighborhood and community level, and yes, even political and government level.

          Governments bully groups of people who are different and encourage media to smear them and trick those who aren’t in the targeted group to brutalize the targets by tellingbthem that they’re better than the targets and dehumanizing them.

          Because when a person is dehumanized, it only makes people believe the abuse is justified, therefore making it easier for others to brutalize targets. Think about it.

          Hilter and Nazi Germany did the same thing to the Jews and they ended up slaughtering 6 million of them.
          Targets of scho bullying and workplace bullying have also been murdered.

          Understand that bullying always escalates if it isn’t addressed properly and the tactics used in bullying are universal!

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