When a Target Ditches a Bully

I can tell you what happened when I deleted one of my former classmates. Before I go any further with my story, I’ll tell you this.

Nobody likes being rejected and dismissed – especially by someone they think is inferior to them. That’s a blow to the ego like one other!

When a bully gets dismissed by the victim, he thought for so long was too weak to stand up to him, oh my God! He. LOSES it! Why? Because in an instant, the victim finally stood his ground, he snatched his power back and left the bully powerless over him for once! Now the bully must go through the headache of finding a new target! Gasp!

This is precisely what happened with my old bully classmate when I unfriended her for a few offhand and snide comments she made on a few of my posts. She became furious! She couldn’t stand it! And I’ve got to tell you. I’m laughing as I’m typing this and thinking back about two years ago.

This half-crazed woman blew up my inbox. And with such vitriolic rage!

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Oh, my goodness! How dare I! The nerve! The audacity! The chutzpah of me! O-M-G! I’m such a fake! I’m such a pissy person who deleted her because I got called out! Oooooo! Poor baby! I’m such a weak little bitch who can’t take constructive criticism!

Those were her words before I laughed and pushed that little godsend of a block button. I would’ve pushed the button sooner, but to tell you the truth, I was getting a real kick out of her reaction, and I wanted to give her time to shoot herself in the foot. Sure enough, she did.

I took screenshots of her messages, one in which she repeatedly asked, “Why did you delete me?”, then plastered them all over the internet. The icing on the cake was that the other classmates saw the screenshots too and they were shocked.

Knowing she’d been punked before the eyes of some of her old high school buddies, this she-bully went even more berserk. And it was so fun to watch!

I kid you not. There wasn’t enough popcorn in the world!

You see, this woman thought that I was weak in high school and never bet on the possibility that I might have smartened up a little in the three decades since. So, I went ahead and let her assume what she wanted and trapped her with it.

I want you to know that standing up to and ditching a bully isn’t as hard as you think. It’s quite easy if you don’t let fear or any intense emotion get in your way. Remember that bullies get their power from getting you emotional. And when you finally come to a place where you’re no longer intimidated or angered by them, the better you’ll be able to use your head, find some leverage, and use it as a weapon.

You must understand that when bullies fly into a rage, they no longer have the ability to think clearly. You then have the opportunity to use it to your advantage and make them look like a complete doorknob.

11 thoughts on “When a Target Ditches a Bully

  1. I can’t tell you what a satisfying read this was, I felt like I was cheering you on line by line. We hear so often about rising to be the better person, turning the other cheek, and often this is true, though sometimes? We need to stand up for ourselves. Sometimes being the better person is as simple as recognising we have worth; bullies really don’t like that.

    And that’s the thing isn’t it? The first hurdle of turning on those who look down on us and saying hey, no, I value myself; it’s such a big step. The moment we do that and they start screaming and shouting, they reveal themselves – we barely need to do a thing! It’s liberating!

    Good for you – I’m sure your words on here are inspiring many others to have a bit of self-belief and stand up to those who have hurt them in the past ❤️️

  2. I enjoyed reading this 🙂 Interesting that this woman still took on a bully stance so many years later? You’d think over time people learn from their behaviour and change their ways.

    I suffered bullying at school and since then in the work place too but on a couple of occasions made friends with the bully and later told them how they made me feel. They were genuinely shocked that I saw them as a bully and didn’t realise how aggressively they came across or that their comments were sometimes hurtful. They felt bad about it and learned from it but only after I’d taken the time to explain it to them. Sometimes it’s possible that someone doesn’t realise how much they come across as a bully. They do need to be called out on it though if they are ever to make any positive changes.

    Thanks for sharing👌

    • You’re very welcome. And thank you for your kind words. I feel your pain and my heart goes out to you. I made friends with a few of my former bullies and they sincerely apologized for what happened years ago. You don’t know how refreshing it feels when a former bully owns what they did and apologizes. It seems to just wipe the slate clean and you move on more easily. We became very close after the apology and it was such a blessing!

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