When People Lump You into A Category Based on The Bad Behavior of Someone Close to You

I hear these stories all the time from people who have a ne’er do well brother, an uncle who’s the town drunk, or a sister who’s notorious for being promiscuous. But whether your dad did a stint in prison, or your mom is perceived by others to be the town nut-job, know that these are things you have no control over and therefore, are not your responsibility. You aren’t defined by the lousy choices or unfortunate circumstances of a few relatives.

Yes, I know that the judgement people heap on top of you hurts and hurts terribly, but I want you to know that you’re an innocent person in all of it. You’re an individual and you shouldn’t feel ashamed of anything because you’ve done nothing wrong. Realize that humans have a bad habit of lumping people into categories, whether justly or unjustly. And they’re wrong for painting you with the same brush based on bad choices a few of your family members made.

People also do this with different races and ethnic groups as well. It seems that many automatically think that all Blacks are thugs, all Whites are racist, all Native Americans are savages, all Hispanics are illegal aliens and so forth.

Yes, I’ve heard all the above statements throughout high school, in a few workplaces, even in the news media and it’s all garbage! We should all know that none of it is true. There are some of the greatest, loving, and most tenderhearted people in every race and there are many who don’t live up to the ignorant stereotypes that society likes to hoist upon them.

Therefore, I want you to know that anyone who puts you in a category with a few evil bad apples, or people who’ve simply made bad choices, doesn’t know the individual you. They do not know your heart nor your inner reality. And they don’t know what you think and feel.

Nobody can possibly know these things but you and God. And if they claim they do know, they’re only playing God by claiming to know the unknowable. Realize that when people perceive you to be someone you aren’t, their thoughts and opinions aren’t worthy of even being considered and you shouldn’t place any value to them.

In fact, you should kick these people to the curb because they aren’t worth your time nor energy. You deserve people in your life who get you- who love you for you and the good you bring to this world.

So, know that you deserve better and that you are not the labels others stick to you.

17 thoughts on “When People Lump You into A Category Based on The Bad Behavior of Someone Close to You

  1. As an American living in Great Britain, I have had some of these stereotypes aimed at me. I can assure everyone that I am not so fat that I need a crane to get out of bed nor am I a loudmouthed, gun toting redneck who thinks with his bible as opposed to his brain.

  2. SMiles Some Days Cherie
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      • Balance is Key Cherie and in a World of So Many Folks “Packing
        Heat” “These Days” It Doesn’t Matter Now How Swift a Martial
        Artist moves are defending against A Bully When He Otherwise

        Might Have Left the
        Fight When A Friend
        Has A Gun Across the

        Room As In the Real World
        Comic Book Super Heroes Don’t Exist

        Faster Than A Speeding Bullet As Such…

        Even The Tricksters are a bit Unrealistic
        As ‘Tom And Jerry’ Opens Up in Theaters
        Yesterday Across the Nation And Let’s Face

        It Real Mice
        Aren’t Nearly
        That Witty for
        Trickster Escapes
        In Real Life too Anyway

        At the Heart of Every Comic Book
        Superhero May Reside Someone Wishing
        For Supernatural Revenge Against A Bully

        Oh if i could only
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        Remember
        The Friend Packing
        Heat across the Room

        For True The Greatest Martial
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        Balance And Confidence Like Bruce
        Lee Per Fictional Movie Who Understands

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        Even Striking Inanimate Objects is Repetitive Motion

        Trauma that often Leads to Incapacity in the Real World Too..

        As When Someone Challenged Him On An Island He Just
        Got In the Boat And Traveled to an Island Without Conflict…

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        the Last 90 Months Yet You See Only For the Balance that allows

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  3. 💜 Well Stated and Fully Understood; however I AM uneasy about what may seem to be Judgemental UnderTones from the SubConscious because, as Jesus said, “Let you who is without sin cast the first stone.”…a Life Mirror is an UnForgiving Beast of Our Guilty Burdens unless We CHOOSE!!! to Forgive OurSelves and Forgive Others as Jesus Does with Love

    …💛💚💙…

      • 💜 I Agree and thank you for your kind words; also I Would Add that I THINK!!! that Being Ashamed of People We ARE Associated with, Whether or NOT!!! Close, is “F.E.A.R” (Friendly Emotive Response, False Evidence Appearing Real, Firm Efficient Assertive ReAction) of Being Judged by Association…as a Person with Psychiatric Conditions My Family and Friends Avoid Me Due to the Mental Health Social STIGMA!!!; so I Have Forgiven Them after Being Really Angry about Their Lack of Compassion, as Jesus put it “Forgive them; for they know not what they do.”

        …💛💚💙…

        • Absolutely! We should never be ashamed of those we love. And it’s important to stand up for them too. It goes hand in hand with not letting their unfortunate circumstances define us. We must be confident enough in our own selves to stand up for them too.

  4. The best advice I ever got (and actually put to use) is this, “It’s none of your business what anyone else thinks of you”. The freedom in that advice is glorious.

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