Most people who become targets of bullying are genuinely good-hearted, pure, and sweet-natured and would never dream of hurting another human being in any way.
On the other hand, bullies are consistently thinking up newer and more sophisticated ways to inflict harm on others. Their hunger for power is such that they have left a long line of victims in their wake and are always looking for new targets.
Most good-natured people become targets of bullying because bullies are notorious for taking kindness for weakness. Sadly, to protect yourself from becoming the next target requires that you adapt the bully mindset. You must think as they do to predict their next move, but NEVER act as they do.
I realize this can be difficult because a bully’s mind isn’t a pleasant place to be. It’s downright ugly!
Another sad truth is that to think as a bully takes a certain degree of identifying with the person- that’s what really sucks. And if you can figure out what their next move will be, you can stay a few steps ahead of the bully and protect yourself and others.
Though it won’t be easy, as the mind of a bully can be a real cesspool, sometimes you must wade through a ton of crap to keep yourself safe and your name and reputation clean.
As disconcerting as this can be, it is very true…..and it works.
Thank you so much, Rebecca! You’re right! <3
Make yourself enough strong. So no one can break you.
It’s a good to understand the mindset of bully. But I think we should recognise our strong point.
I’m also one of the people who don’t want to hurt anyone. But the reality is people do not care what I think.
Absolutely. That’s why I emphasize think like a bully but never act like one. Treat everyone with kindness but know what the bully’s next move might be. Most of the time, this requires a lot of reading on human psychology especially the dark side of it. Use it as protection only.
Yes.
It’s definitely tough form to stay one step ahead of them because I like to enjoy life and have fun. But you are right about doing so.
Definitely! I’m like you in that I love to enjoy life and just be. Life’s too short not to enjoy and fill with love. But I also like being about to protect myself should toxic people try to bring me down. 🙂