The Physically Violent Bully

The weakest person always uses physical violence. But the strongest person always uses their brain. It’s also true that the weakest person talks the most and the loudest, but the strongest person gets his message across in few words.

Through experience, I’ve found that these bullies were taught at home that violence is the answer to all their problems. Most of my classmates had the same brutish mentality. If you didn’t give them what they wanted, they resorted to using their fists to teach you a lesson and force you to comply. They also used physical violence any time they felt they weren’t getting the “respect” they thought was due them.

Bullies like these may even use physical violence to take their frustrations out on their targets whenever they’ve had a bad day or when they’re in a bad mood. It’s pathetic really.

Their kneejerk reactions are triggered with a self-demeaning or self-defeating thought and feeling of indignation somewhere between the target’s statement or action and the bully’s blow-up.

“He thinks I’m a wuss.”

“She thinks I’m a loser.”

“He thinks I’m chicken.”

“She thinks I’m weak.”

“He thinks I’m stupid.”

“She thinks my opinions don’t matter.”

“I’m not getting through to this jerk.”

“He doesn’t respect me.”

“She won’t validate me.”

Which boils down to:

“If she doesn’t agree with me, then she doesn’t respect me.”

“If he doesn’t give me what I want, then he doesn’t take me seriously.”

Next, the bully has an afterthought that compels him/her to physically attack the target. The afterthought can be something like:

 

“I need to show this person that they can’t insult me and get away with it. And I need to do it so they’ll know that I’m not a pushover or softie.”

“I need to show this person she cannot ignore me and just walk away.”

This is all the result of the bully’s feeling hurt and they cover this hurt feeling behind the veneer of anger and toughness.

Physically violent bullies believe that being calm and cool, and maintaining one’s temper is a sign of weakness- or that walking away from confrontation and ignoring an aggressor is a sign of disrespect. Understand that these bullies place high value on their status and social image. They believe that they target slighted them and is responsible for their feelings of hurt, indignation, or rejection.

  • The target wronged them somehow.
  • The target should be punished and destroyed.

Realize that physically violent bullies impose rules of conduct and engagement on their targets that they, themselves, don’t follow and think they’re exempt from. These bullies truly believe that:

  • Their targets must respect them at all times.
  • Their targets should be fully aware of what they want and expect from them.
  • Their targets should do what they tell them to do.
  • Their targets should never say ‘no’ to them.

  • Their targets should only say what they (the bullies) want to hear.
  • Their targets should be available and at their beck and call any time they want.
  • Their targets should satisfy their every whim.
  • Their targets should put them first and sacrifice themselves for them.

Physically violent bullies constantly apply evil intentions to their targets and feel consistent urges to make them pay for supposedly being such a pain. Remember that bullies are under the delusion that their targets are persecuting them when, in fact, it’s the exact opposite. This victim-blaming helps to soothe the bully’s self-image.

Their thoughts are:

“You caused me distress!”

“You made me mad, so I must make you pay dearly for it!”

When a physically violent bully attacks and beats down their target, they get instant psychological rewards- their anger is relieved, they get a sense of great power, and they feel a sense of satisfaction and justice.

The bully gets to be up close to the target and look into their eyes to see their pain. They desire to hear the target cry out or scream in pain. They also get the satisfaction of getting the target good and bloody or getting themselves covered with the target’s blood. Understand that these bullies are sick individuals. They derive pleasure from inflicting cuts, bruises, and broken bones.

This is the mentality of the physically violent bully. It pays to know the inner workings of these types of people so that you can better protect yourself and defend against them.

18 thoughts on “The Physically Violent Bully

  1. Hey, I made a new post about what’s happening in Palestine. Do check it out and a reblog would help a lot to spread awareness since you have more traffic than me.

  2. Good response, Cherie! I would have said the same thing. I wish both sides of that conflict would lock up their terrorist groups and learn to live in peace. Seems to me that our world was well on its way to peace, until the election fraud that makes it look like China’s puppet was elected – hopefully the audits will sort that out, correct things and get us all back on track for world peace!

  3. Another great one. This basically comes down to a person showing a lack of intellect. Because they can’t outthink them then they will often find someone perceived weaker. I know growing up I would back down against a bully who I thought could kick my tail. Looking back I probably could have held my own against some of them but that wasn’t my perception back then as a non violent person. Note that physical bullies rarely will get into a physical altercation with someone they consider their equal in terms of strength or fighting ability. However, they are also being dumb because they totally can ruin their power if they take on someone considered weaker and lose. That is why I believe sometimes you have to stand up to them even if it means risking taking a few lumps.

    • I couldn’t agree more. Many times I did stand up to my bullies. However, I’d whip one then have about five of their friends wanting to jump me for beating up their friend, even though their friend was asking for it. But there were a lot of people I didn’t stand up to and should have.

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