Suicide is Never a Solution

The suicides of targets at school and in the workplace have gotten lots of media attention in the last decade, driving home the sad truth of an epidemic of suicide among people due to bullying and abuse. What I cannot stress enough is that suicide is totally fruitless and counter-productive. People who take their own lives seldom think of the ramifications because, understandably, all they want is for the pain to stop.

Here’s where I want to expose some sad truths behind it:

When you commit suicide, not only at a young age, but any age, you cheat yourself out of the possibility that things will eventually get better- the possibility of happiness, of fulfillment, and of any chance at a wonderful future. You also cheat the people who love you, setting them up for a lifetime of heartache and the years and years of the nagging question, Why? A question they will ask for a lifetime and never have answered.

Please realize that even though things may seem hopeless now, life can and most likely will eventually change for the better. As long as you are still alive, things can improve- and they can improve drastically. But taking your own life takes that chance away forever. Once you’re gone, there’s no coming back. You miss out on all those possibilities.

Suicide is not an escape. It’s not glamorous. And it is certainly not a way to obtain sympathy. The bullies and whoever else mistreated you won’t feel the least bit sorry about it. Some, in fact, some might even be happy that you’re no longer around. The worst of them will even feel satisfied that they could control you so far as to end your own life! And you know what they’ll do then? Select someone else to torment and denigrate while you’re six feet under and forgotten. Some people are truly evil and sadistic.

People will mourn you, but only for a little while. Then they’ll move on with their lives— Life will go on after you’re gone. If this seems brutal and unfeeling, it’s because the truth is cold and brutal and I want to shock you into realizing that the petty and childish people who bully you just aren’t worth dying over.

Before you make the decision to end your life, ask yourself these questions:

Do you really want to give your bullies the satisfaction of knowing that they had the power of life and death over you?
Do you want to give them that power?

I would hope and pray that you don’t! They already have enough power over you. Don’t give them any more of it!

If a bully says, “go kill yourself,” ask the bully and ask yourself who that person is to decide whether you should live or die? In fact, think about these questions:

Who are they to decide your worth as a human being?
Who are they to decide whether or not you’re good enough?
Who are they to decide who or what you are or should be?
And who the hell are they to decide that you should die?

(Continued later in Part 2…)

35 thoughts on “Suicide is Never a Solution

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  2. Everything you’ve written is very true, however it’s just not that simple when you are in the midst of some of the worse emotional and mental darkness where you feel as if you are like the “walking dead”. At times it can be so dark and painful, one may think they are losing their mind.

    I do not know if you have experienced such dark, and hellish moments, where there is no hope, no light, no love, just numbness, and no one to talk too, “if” one is able to talk about what one is suffering in such moments, which just do not occur just a couple of times in ones life, but a multitude of times.

    I know, I’ve been there, even while being a follower of my Lord, bipolar also played a part in it. But thank the Lord I had HIM! He was the only one who kept me, on a number of times from doing that final act. All praise goes to Him.

    But when there are those who do not believe in a saviour, as at one time I was one of them, death is the only way out, you never think how other’s will feel, it is such a deep pit of terrifying “deadness”.

    I hope you can understand why I am sharing this, because it is just not that easy at times to think otherwise in such state’s. Now some due come to seek help when they’ve pulled through such depression, for some reason they find the strength to do so, and that could also be a gift from God Himself according to His will, even if they do not believe. “For every good and perfect gift comes from above”. One could say Providential interference.

    Lord bless you…….In His Love…..

    • I understand sweetie. And I have experienced those emotions. The bullying drove me to such a dark and lonely place that I attempted suicide and almost didn’t make it. And you described the feeling so perfectly when you make the statement about feeling as if you’re “the walking dead” because that’s exactly how I felt. It’s because of the numbness you feel. You’ve been bullied and brutalized for so long that you’re no longer able to feel without fearing you’ll lose all control if you dare to feel such raw emotions. It’s like you’re in a trance and you don’t know which end is up anymore. You lose all sense of who you are. In short, you’re just dead inside. Bullying is a hellish torture you see no end to, so you feel that death is the only way to make it stop.

      I’ll forever be grateful to the Lord, Jesus, for giving me a second chance, but many targets don’t get their second chance, and that’s the thing that saddens me.

      Thank you so much for your comment. It was so relatable and you worded it so well. And know that I’m always here for you. ❤

      • Thank you, for desiring to always be here for me, as true Christians should be, but that is far from the truth.
        Through all the dark places, “the Shadow of the valley of death” the pain, fear, despair, I have learned that that Lord had me go through it all basically, alone, why because ONLY HE could bring me through, no one could understand, they tried their best, but the Lord wanted me to learn to lean upon HIM, for this walk with and in the Lord, is a “Lonely path of solitude through the wilderness…….and I would not have it any other way.
        Lord bless you……

  3. I agree. I would like to add that it makes no sense to commit suicide because I believe that every human in their heart of their heart, wants to live. And I would like to quote Dumbledore here, “Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.” Yup, you guessed it : Potterhead through and through. Lol. See ya. Keep up the good work.

  4. I may disagree with suicide not being an option. When I was in mental anguish, suicide looked inviting Some will argue that the act is selfish. When I was that low I really didn’t care about anyone, I just wanted the pain to stop, for the voices to be silent.
    Some people believe that suicide is a sin, however I am no longer of that opinion. God is big enough to understand the depths of despair one goes through that leads to suicide.

    • Suicide is an option but never a solution. Like you, I don’t believe people who are suicidal really want to die. All they want is for the pain and abuse to stop and see death as the only way to make it stop. I look back on my own suicide attempt and realize that this applied to me too when I was young.

    • I’ve been there and completely understand. Depression is a hellish existence that nobody deserves to endure. I wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy. If I can show one person how important and valuable they are. Then what I went through is worth it.

  5. I absolutely agree with you. Committing suicide is not an option. It is never the solution to your problems. Don’t allow it to win, let’s defeat it instead!
    Keep up the good work. 👍🏻

  6. relax. close your eyes. you have known God and you feel like telling everybody the experience memory truth happiness health wealth money impossibility possible miracle eternal mortal finite infinite alive inert dream reality gradual stepped perfect imperfect superior inferior universe number everything nothing animal plant mineral conscious unconscious same different creation evolution credible incredible created with without creator with without beginning end in time past present future from the will to live love care matter. hell and heaven is ourselves for eternity til endless death. there are no secrets. God can not be deceived. truth is life and lie is death. open your eyes.

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    • I read your post the other day and it was awesome and spot on! When God is off the grid, remember that the teacher is always silent during testing. Keep up the great writing.

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