The Bully’s Perspective

Bullies perceive their target as their enemy even when the target has done nothing to them and even as they’re ritually abusing and torturing the poor soul. And once the target speaks out about the abuse, that enmity only increases exponentially.

The bullies get a fix on the target and he/she is all they can focus on because they feel threatened.

Bullies and abusers only see from their own perspective and their perspective has the target as the enemy- a threat who must be contained and even eliminated. Bullies aren’t concerned with the fact that their anger and hatred are irrational. They don’t think that they’re destroying a fellow human being much like themselves- a human being with thoughts, feelings, and emotions.

Bullies are oblivious to the fact that the impetus of their violence comes from the primal part of their brains.

Understand that if you’re a target of bullying, your bullies see you as the enemy, right or wrong. They view you as bad and evil and they want revenge. They have no inhibitions of destroying you because they think they’re the good guys and they’re doing the right thing by destroying you: evil enemies must be annihilated.

In the Mind of a Bully, The Target Owes Them Respect

And when the target doesn’t show the bullies the respect, they feel they’re entitled to, or in the way the bullies think should be shown, they become enraged and seek to destroy the person.

The power-dynamic between bully and target is always zero-sum. The bully feels the target deserves nothing but hostility and abuse from them but, in contrast, the target owes them respect…and he owes it to them as they’re abusing him.

From the bully’s perspective, the target must atone for their flaws, their shortcomings, and their evil by lying down and “letting” the bullies torment her.

But when and where does it stop? It doesn’t.

As we know, bullying only gets worse until somebody dies.

If you’re a target of a bully, understand this. It doesn’t matter what the bully’s perspective is. It doesn’t matter what the bully thinks. Neither the bully nor anyone else has a right to violate your boundaries, physical nor psychological.

I want you to know that you have a right to learn, work, or live in a safe environment. You have a right to be in a nourishing environment that allows you to flourish. And you owe respect to no one who hasn’t earned your respect. Bullies and abusers deserve no respect from you. Anyone who deliberately sets out to hurt you does not deserve anything from you. Understand that you must value yourself and put yourself first.

If someone is abusing you, you have every right to take care of yourself. You have not only a right but an obligation to yourself to either walk away from the person or, if you can’t walk away- if the bully won’t let you walk away, then you have a right to defend yourself. Realize that you are valuable, and you matter just as much as the next person.

And everyone has flaws, not only you. If anyone bullies you, then they have no business coming anywhere near you. Always remember that.

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  3. very true what you say.Bullies/Abusers SEE THERE VIEW ONLY ..i was bullied very soon after i was then Abused Sexually ..I AM ALIVE , my story of abuse is in a Authors Book. my blog.http;//mark-kent.webs.com twitter.supersnopper MARK

      • i am very Touched by your Reply .Being Disabled MYSELF .people never see the Every Day Effects .there Views/Judgements very SNOTTY NOSED …Mark

        • BTW, I tried to subscribe to your blog and for so reason it wouldn’t go through. I downloaded your book though. I’ll try again to subscribe later.

          • i will look into why you are not able too subscribe.the book you have downloaded is about.RESEARCH I HAVE TAKEN PART IN ..as i take part in a lot lot Research ..the book about Abuse is NOT on my blog. i am NOT the Author ..i am Co-Author of a Book. PUBLISHED LAST YEAR .020 ..this is about Disability and Sex ….i am on.Linkedin ..Mark.

          • Thank you, Mark. I’ll search for you there. Feel free to follow my blog. It’s packed with information you may find interesting and helpful. Blessings to you!

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