Never Apologize for Who You Are

Make no apologies for who you are nor what you stand for. And make no apologies for any successes nor victories you’ve had. Most importantly, make no apologies for loving yourself and going after what you want and deserve.

Bullies will get jealous of your successes and victories and try to undermine them. They give you backhanded compliments, accuse you of having “freak luck,” or call you an imposter.

Also, if you’re a confident and happy person, bullies will be jealous of that too. They will accuse you of being “full of yourself,” “arrogant,” “conceited,” and other such nonsense.

Turn a deaf ear to these haters!

Many times, bullying targets, after having been bullied for so long, end up apologizing for or explaining away the beautiful parts of their personalities because they have been forced by others to believe that something really is wrong with them. If this applies to you, I want you to stop doing that! You owe no one any apologies nor explanations for being YOU.

I want you to think about this: Perceptions are often wrong, and just because others “perceive” you to be less than does not mean that you are. Accept yourself, embrace the imperfections. You know the imperfections I’m talking about- the ones you can do nothing about, because we all have them. We wouldn’t be human if we weren’t a little flawed in some way, shape, or form. Stop apologizing, stop explaining, and begin loving yourself for all that you are.

17 thoughts on “Never Apologize for Who You Are

  1. Definitely something I still have to learn, I don’t like talking about my dreams to people other than family, so I feel like my friends don’t really know me and I should really open up but then I always think that they wouldn’t understand, that’s why never apologizing for who I am stands for me that i should be 100% myself and not hide away 😉😊

    • I completely understand, Dwain. That’s a hard habit to break. Once you’ve been abused and programmed to always explain yourself and apologize to keep from getting hurt, it’s hard to break that pattern. But understand that you had to do these things to survive- you were surviving abuse and a bad environment. But once you’re out of the toxic place, you can reprogram yourself. It takes a lot of inner work and time, but once you complete the reprogramming process, it’s so worth it in the end. Thank you so much for opening up and being honest. I love that about you.

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  3. It used to confuse me a lot when happiness was taken for arrogance. It was a long road to becoming unapologetic for simply being myself and I am still learning a lot.

    • I can so relate. It was for me too when I was young. When I’d smile, people would automatically accuse me of being “full of myself.” Since then, I’ve learned to let comments like theirs roll right off my back and keep it moving. One awesome part of getting older is that you grow comfortable in your own skin and no longer care what others think of you. The only opinions that matter are those of well-meaning family members and loved ones.

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