What Bullies Want You to Believe v/s What You Should Believe

 

Understand that bullies thrive on power and control. If they can’t control you, they’ll control how others view you. They’ll also use redundancy and repetition to make you believe their lies too. Here’s what they’re most likely to try and get you to think of yourself and what you should believe:

1. What bullies want you to believe

Apart from us, you can do nothing, you are nothing, and you never will be.

What you should believe

Apart from you, I’m better off. I can do anything I set my mind to do, I’m somebody and later down the line, I’m going to be great and do great things.

2. What bullies want you to believe

You’ll never find happiness without our permission.

What you should believe

I don’t need your permission to be happy. I’m much happier without a bunch of losers in my life.

3. What bullies want you to believe

Nobody will ever like or love you.

What you should believe

Maybe you never will, but I don’t mind because you don’t matter. There will be others who’ll love me for me. I’ll find my tribe.

4. What bullies want you to believe

You’re nothing without our approval.

What you should believe

I’m nothing with it because you are nothing. I don’t need your “approval” because it will never define me. Your opinion matters not because, for something to matter, you must first value it, and your opinions or approval are of no value to me.

Always counter the statements, including the unspoken ones. You’ll be surprised at what it will do for your self-esteem and your spirit!

With knowledge comes empowerment!

11 thoughts on “What Bullies Want You to Believe v/s What You Should Believe

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  2. I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for your important contributions! They also helped me pull out of a relationship that was very strained and I understood that the underlying problem could never be resolved.

    • You don’t know how much this means to me. I’m so glad I could help you walk away for a relationship that was hurting you. Thank you so much for your kindness. I wish you nothing but peace and happiness from this day forward. 😊❤

      • You are very kind! I can imagine that it was not easy for you at the beginning to push this topic so hard. The more important it seems to me that you know that you have helped other sufferers to take a different point of view, to be able to stop blaming oneself, as bullies want it to.

        • I write from experience and what worked for me.. Granted, different things work for different people,, but I’ve been told by others that I’m helping them too, yes. Thank you so much. 💞

  3. Thankfully I have learned that apart from God I am nothing, with Him I am safe from the harm bullies want to cause to my soul and my spirit as God hides me under the shadow of His wings. When my oldest boy was very small, he used to hide behind my legs when he felt shy or afraid. I picture myself as a small child, hiding behind God’s legs, snuggling next to Him under the safety of His wings while He fights my battles. God is so Good ✝️✝️✝️💕💕💕

  4. I experienced bullying for a large part of my life. At home, at school, at church. It not as easy feat. As I grew older I had to learn to standup for myself. It wasn’t easy to say no to family members who taught they had a right to tell me what to do. It wasn’t easy to stand up and say this is what I want for myself. There was always this deep sense of fear and guilt. I’m doing much better now but bullying still exists in my environs. I have to keep standing up for myself. Thanks for sharing.

    • You’re so welcome, Ann. My heart goes out to you, sweetie. But I’m so proud of you for being brave, standing up for yourself, and setting boundaries. ❤❤❤

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