Choose Your Friends by How They Make You Feel About Yourself


And no, I don’t mean the type of friends who only tell you what you want to hear. You can get that anywhere.

I’m talking about something that goes much deeper.

It’s not about how much money or prestige they have- the hot car they drive or the latest fashions they wear. It’s not about how good they look or how popular they are.

It’s all in how they make us feel about ourselves, and the space they give us to grow. Even better, it’s how they help us to grow and vice versa.

If the person makes you feel bad about yourself and makes you doubt yourself- if she makes you feel left out and discarded, that’s your first clue that this person is not right for you! They’re not worthy of your time and are a waste of energy.

Don’t walk. RUN!

Always keep company with those who make you feel the best about yourself- that means the people who want to see you do good for yourself, the people who point you in the right direction, and the people who remain loyal even when the chips are down.


Associate only with the people who love, encourage and want your very best. Reserve your friendship only for those who have your back! Choose the friend who is willing to walk through the fire with you.

Never chase anyone who doesn’t care or makes you feel terrible about yourself. Because if they’re a true friend, they won’t tear you down and make you feel worthless.

They won’t block your path to success. You won’t have to fight for their time or their love. They will make time for you and give love freely.

Be selective of who you let in your life!

20 thoughts on “Choose Your Friends by How They Make You Feel About Yourself

  1. I loved this quote by Maya Angelou: “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” You’re spot-on with this message girlfriend. 🤗💖☺

  2. Spot on, from start-to-finish. It takes as much courage as sensibility to be secure in yourself not to pander to the wrong people just to belong. Build your own self worth before worrying about others doing it for you.

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  4. I love this. I look at friendship like this. Your best best friend sometimes you are even closer to than your own family. Friends are people we should be able to pour our hearts too. Friends are people we would die for and them for us. Friends are people we love. Sometimes the best romantic relationships start off as friendships. Friends are people we love so much we can have a knock down dragout fight with and everything still be okay. All of us need to do a better job of reaching out to our friends regularly and telling them we appreciate them.

  5. This is so perfect reminder to read, it takes some tough experiences to recognize the effects of not being aware of this, it happens even in family relations. You said it all so well.

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