When A Bully Is Physically Attacking You, Should You Hit Back?

It seems to be the question on everyone’s mind these days, especially in the notoriously politically correct climate in which we live. The media and politicians vehemently discourage fighting violence with violence. You’ll hear statements from others, such as:

“Two wrongs don’t make a right.”
“Turn the other cheek.”
“Don’t stoop to the bully’s level.”
And the all-time favorite,
“Be the bigger person and walk away.”

I’ve heard them all.

self defense

Yes, you should try more peaceful ways first, like walking away from the bully or reporting it to someone in power. However, what if the more peaceful solutions don’t work?

If you don’t stand up for yourself, the bully will only continue to come after you and hurt you. You’ll be a punching bag for everyone who knows you at school or elsewhere. Because when word gets around that one person can hit you and get away with it, everyone else will think they can too and you’ll be the school or the community whipping boy. That’s no way to live.

In the middle of a physical attack, the last resort is the only option you have.

So, here it is:

When a bully physically attacks you, you have a God-given, primal, animal right to defend yourself from being harmed. I state this with full conviction!

If a bully hits you first, haul off and knock his block off! And when you do, don’t just give him a love pat. Deck the creep with the strength of your entire body- hit so hard that the bully has difficulty getting back up. Then unleash a hail of hard licks so that he doesn’t get up. Because once the bully gets up, he will charge you!

Yeah. I know it isn’t the “politically correct” thing to do. But when someone is harming you, all that jazz about political correctness and being the bigger person goes out the window, and the gloves are off.

The only thing you should think of at this point is how to disable the bully so or give him such a bad memory that he’ll never even think about coming for you again. You aren’t a troublemaker or a brute for this, folks! It’s called self-defense!

This doesn’t mean bringing a gun or other deadly weapon. Lethal weapons will only get someone killed, and you put behind bars for the rest of your life. Never EVER carry a gun to school! It’s much better to put up your dukes and throw down when you must.

Bully picking on smaller weaker teenager with very agressive behavior shoving his face into the bus

I’ll say again, punch the bully’s lights out! You may get suspended from school, fired from work, or even go to jail for a night or two. However, physical attacks are much more vicious nowadays and if you just let someone smack you around, they’ll only intensify the beatings until they hurt you bad enough to send you to the hospital or worse! And I’d much rather be suspended, lose a job, or spend a night in jail than to spend a month in the hospital or end up six feet under.

I don’t condone fighting. Although I fought many times in school, I hated it each time I had to. I was a 5’4″, 120-pound girl being jumped and most of the time by multiple assailants, a male attacker, or a female much bigger than me. There were times when I was also boxed in where I couldn’t go anywhere.

There was no other choice. It was either fight or risk my bullies possibly maiming or killing me. Sometimes the last resort is the only way to protect yourself and let a bully know that you’re not the one to mess with and that you aren’t afraid to fight back if necessary.

There will be others who may disagree with this post, and that’s okay. I am very thick-skinned now and rarely do I get offended. I can agree to disagree. But I will do what I have to do to protect my well-being and my life if ever I’m in physical danger.

So, if all else fails, go ahead and whoop that ***!

I’d love to hear your thoughts on the subject!

35 thoughts on “When A Bully Is Physically Attacking You, Should You Hit Back?

    • That’s it right there. I remember watching Karate Kid and Mr. Miyagi telling Daniel, “Win, lose, no matter. You give good fight, earn respect. They leave you alone.” That was a line I never forgot.

  1. I have thought about this a lot and no I am not saying I am a fan of violence. But yes sometimes you have to. I am a believer of self-defense. I even believe that in domestic situations. I don’t care if you are a man or a woman, if your partner is hurting you, you have a right to defend yourself within certain boundaries.

    If you are being bullied physically sometimes you have to fight back. A lot of the times the bully actually is scared to fight anyway, they just use the THREAT to intimidate. And if you lose to the bully who is perceived to be tough if he/she wins it was expected. But what if you win? Their reputation is gone. And even standing up to them may make them leave you alone.

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  3. Most bullies are so because they believe they can easily beat you in a fight. That’s the power they have over their victims. One thing I learned, too late in life, is that there are no rules to fighting. As a male, there seems to be taboo if he kicks in a fight, he’s fighting like a girl. If you are fighting for your life, don’t let that stop you! Also, if you think you can’t win in a ‘fair’ fight and there is a weapon at hand, not a gun or knife, use it. Yes, some will call you a coward for using a weapon but it’s better than being beaten to a pulp.

    • I agree with you there, Michael. And it doesn’t matter how big the person is, male, female, none of that. I’m going to do what I’ve got to do to keep from being harmed and if it means using my fists, I’ll do it but if the person is bigger and towers over me, I’ll pick up a baseball bat, a chair, a lamp, something, and knock the hell out of them with it. I’m not very big and tall so I’d be in a vulnerable position.

  4. I was never in a situation where I feared for my physical safety. However son#1 when in 3rd grade (small for his age and as thin as a rail) was being picked on by a 5th grader. He was finally pushed over the edge and when attacked he fought back. Fortunately a teacher was able to pull him off the 5th grader before the older boy was seriously hurt. He had instant respect from all the 5th grade on down. The older boy became his friend and they were friendly through middle school (which I assure you was a big help for that geeky son of mine)!

    • That’s awesome, Valerie. And I’ve heard of and seen many times that that exact thing happened. The smaller kid fought back and earned respect. Then the bully became a buddy.

  5. OMG Cherie, say no more! First, I had to laugh at your image depicting the can of Extra Strength Whoop Ass! LMBO That’s exactly what went through my mind when I read your title. Yep, I know Michelle Obama always says, “When they go low, we go high” but my sidebar to that is, if it’s in self-defense when they go low, they gonna be down there for a while. Period! 💪🏽

    OK, you got my attention this morning girlfriend! 😲 LOL 😁 🤜🏽🤛🏽😉

  6. SMiles “Turn The Other
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  7. “Now remember, things look bad and it looks like you’re not gonna make it, then you gotta get mean. I mean plumb, mad-dog mean. ‘Cause if you lose your head and you give up then you neither live nor win. That’s just the way it is.” – Clint Eastwood, The Outlaw Josey Wales, 1976

  8. I am glad to see this post! I think most of the readers here are in agreeance and nobody here is advocating initating violence. We are all talking about self defense. And I think society misses the boat on that. Smaller person initiates violence, the other person who is getting pounded defends his or herself when they themselves are being hurt, than society attacks them because they are bigger. Bigger doesn’t always mean stronger and anyone can be hurt. If I start it with anyone that’s on me, if they start attacking me and I fight back that is on them. If I get in trouble, I am willing to risk that if it is true self defense.

    Let me also say this. I look back and there was one really bad bully at my school that many of us feared. Our perception was they could beat us up and we were helpless. That was wrong thinking and I will say for the record years later they apologized for their behavior. But I look back now and they actually were small in size, no actual evidence of being strong, and I don’t recall them actually getting in many fights or winning a lot of fights. It was all in perception. In hindsight I suspect many of us could have taken them and the last time I saw them (and we are cool now) but I realize now I could likely take them. Why did I put up with so much? Why did any of us?

    • Wow! You stated all the right points here! I agree amd I can relate. I remember on the school bus there was a little kid that used to hit bigger kids. When it came my turn to get hit by this kid, I hauled off and socked her back. Then she started screaming like she was being murdered amd because I was older, I got blamed for it. It was that all the older kids got punished if they hit back and it wasn’t right. This child knew what she was doing. She’d already picked up on the fact that she could haul off and whack somebody but if they socked her back, all she had to do is start crying and she could get the other person in trouble. This was typical of her. Thank you so much for your thoughts on this! I loved it!

  9. Such an important subject. I think this reminds me of Karate kid. I was almost in tears. Bullying can shatter you as a child making you less confident. I totally agree with what you said. 🌸

  10. I’m going to depart from the style in which many of your commenters follow.

    The burden of self defense applies to bullying victims too.

    To understand your limits is a necessity. Drawing boundaries also.

    I also make the argument that everyone should understand violence to a point. (Did some BJJ and catch wrestling.)

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