Would You Rather Be Hated for Being Smart or Pitied for Being Dumb?

I ask this question because there are a lot of people- people who are highly intelligent- who try to hide their smarts for fear of being hated, i.e., bullied. They’ve let others convince them that, because of their smarts, they come off as know-it-alls and tell them to dumb down because they “don’t want to make others feel bad about themselves” or that they just might offend some people.

This is total BS!

I want you to know one thing right now! It is not your responsibility to make someone else feel good about themselves. Whether your intelligence offends others is not your problem therefore, their hatred of you is also not your problem.

Understand that the reason why your intelligence may offend some people is because they are either jealous, intimidated, or insecure. It’s because of their own unaddressed psychological issues- issues that they’re trying to lay off on you.

Your intelligence may inspire some to doubt their own smarts and mental capabilities, or it may provoke others to compare themselves to you. Again, not your responsibility. They are the ones doubting and questioning their own intelligence. They are the ones who are making comparisons. You aren’t doing these things to them. They are doing it to themselves!

Again, you are not responsible for another person’s self-esteem. Only they can do the inner work needed to raise their confidence levels and if they’re too lazy to do that inner work, that’s on them!

Here’s another point I want to make: Though being hated can be frightening and doesn’t feel good, always remember that there’s dignity in being hated, but none in being pitied.

Yes, you read that correctly. When you’re hated, you still have your dignity. But when you’re pitied, you’ve lost all dignity and respect!

Smart people are hated. Stupid people are pitied.

Therefore, never hide your intelligence from anyone. Let yourself stand out and shine. And any time you feel tempted to hide your brilliance because you’re afraid of being bullied, ridiculed, or hated by others, ask yourself,

“Would you rather be hated for being smart or pitied for being dumb?”

I rest my case.

24 thoughts on “Would You Rather Be Hated for Being Smart or Pitied for Being Dumb?

  1. Wow nice post!
    Smart people are hated and dumb people are pitted..
    Sounds so sad. Instead of hating smart people or pitting not-smart people, they should focus on themselves 😐

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  3. Intelligence, although a gift, comes with a price.
    God gives intelligence to some, and watches what they do with this gift.

    Hopefully they will use their intelligence to help others, who may not have the intellectual gifts that they do.

    High intelligence carries the hazard of becoming prideful, and we know how God feels about the proud, he resists them.

    It is truly a great blessing when God allows us to recognize the giftedness of everyone.

    Those who use their intelligence with humility are seldom hated by anyone. 🌼🤗

    • Thank you for your thoughts, Sally. <3 You make such a great point! It's true that you should never let your smarts go to your head and you shouldn't showboat it, but neither should you hide it. It's a part of being who you are comfortably. However, whether you have humility or not, you can still be hated for your intelligence. The Bible also says that Christians will be hated because the world first hated Christ. Christ was very intelligent when he walked the earth, yet he was humble. He was still hated.

      • So true, Cherie, thanks. If Christ was hated, then Christians will be hated too.
        This is difficult to accept for those who prefer to be liked, but, as you clearly say, those who don’t know Christ will hate us too. 🤗🌷

        • Absolutely! You nailed it! And I hate to admit it, but somethings I still get intimidated and the thought crosses my mind to hide not only my intelligence (and I don’t claim to know everything), but the fact that I’m a Christian. But then I think of Jesus’ quote, “If you’re ashamed of Me, then I will be ashamed of you before My Father!” Whoa! Now, that overrides ALL fears! 😮

  4. You know Cherie, in high school I tried to not draw attention to myself when I was inducted into the Beta Club in 9th grade. I even declined the invitation to being inducted because I didn’t want to offend a few friends who did not excel academically as I had. But Lord, when my mother found out, I didn’t try that anymore and that left me open for a little bit of name calling. That ticked me off! 😡

    When I went to the other side, sitting in class with those students who were in college prep courses, I knew why the Beta Club was so significant to my trek for going to college. Honey child, I had a mother who I was afraid of more than those so called friends I was trying to be cool with. My mother always told us, “I ain’t raising no dumb child.” In the words of Forrest Gump, “And that’s all I have to say about that!!!” LOL Great post my dear!!! 💖 🤗 🌺

    • Oh, wow! I love this story, Kym! Your mother was right and it sounds like she was no one you wanted to mess with! LOLOL She sounds a lot like my mom, too. And I remember my mother telling me the same thing during my teens when I wanted to quit high school in the eleventh grade because I was being bullied so badly! After she told me that she wasn’t raising no dumb kids, she said, “You will go to school if I have to drag you kicking and screaming!” And she meant it. I’m so glad she held firm with me, otherwise, I wouldn’t have successfully graduated high school, then never would’ve graduated college year later. I could kiss her a thousand times today for standing tough back then! I truly appreciate her more than I could ever express! <3

      • Oh my goodness Cherie, how ironic that we have almost parallel stories about our mothers. But I think you and I can collectively agree that we are so incredibly grateful that they didn’t pull the plug on us and redirected us back on track. That’s why we can give the strong testimonies that we give nowadays. Experience truly is the best teacher!!! 🥰 ❤️🙏 🤗 🌺

  5. Looking back, it is ridiculous when I think about it but it seemed like most of the “cool” kids were never known for being great students. I guess it is immaturity but we always looked at other things and it was almost embarrassing for many to be a top notch intellect. I look back now and don’t understand why I didn’t look for a person of intellect. Also, I think it sort of is a gender thing too. How many females downplay intellect so they won’t intimidate males?

    • Wow! I love your points here. And you hit the nail on the head with everything you said here, especially when you mentioned that females downplay their intellect to keep from intimidating men. Unfortunately, that happens a lot. However, more so, they can also intimidate their fellow females as well because woman are notorious for trying to tear down another woman if she outdoes them even the slightest. Women are vicious like that. Toxic males are more overt with their intimidation, but bully women are sneakier with it.

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