The Most Ridiculous Bullying Advice I Ever Received

Anytime a target is bullied in school or college, adults can give some of the most ridiculous, downright ludicrous advice that, in most cases, has no chance of ever producing positive results. This isn’t to say that the people who give the advice don’t mean well, because most of the time, they do. It only comes from a lack of knowledge.

However, other adults, like a few teachers and school officials will often give the same advice not only out of laziness, but also hoping the target will forget about the bullying he/she suffers and let the bullies off the hook. I write this from personal experience.

I can tell you that I got lots of advice back in the day that was not only ineffective, but counterproductive, from a few well-meaning family members who didn’t know better, lazy teachers, and not-to-be-bothered principals. And when I did take their advice and found that it produced no results, I felt let down to say the least.

Here are some things that were suggested to me years ago when I was in the battle of my life:

1.Ignore them. I’m sure everyone who has ever battled bullies has gotten this advice. Here are a few reasons why this almost never works.

a. Bullies seek attention. And they are relentless in that pursuit. If one thing doesn’t get your attention, they will try something else, and they won’t stop until they’ve worn you down and caused you to react out of exhaustion. Even then, they won’t stop.

b. Bullies think they’re entitled to unearned respect. Many of these bullies get extremely angry when you ignore them because they see it as disrespect. Then, they will retaliate and continue to make you pay from that day forward.

c. Bullies mistake your ignoring them for fear- these bullies are like wild animals. When they smell fear (or think they do), look out! Because they’ll take full advantage until they either crush you underfoot, or you blow your top, knock the taste out of their mouths, and land in trouble with school authorities or police.

The best thing to do is to come back at the bullies with something witty to throw them off balance, or initiate a good burn to humiliate them and make them think twice about ever coming for you again.

2. Just Overlook Them. Right! It’s hard to overlook a bully who’s in your face, screaming curses and obscenities at you, daring you to say something back to them or to hit them. It’s also difficult to ignore a bully who’s beating the crap out of you after school every other day. How can you overlook or ignore that?

 The best thing to do here is to tell them to back the hell off or if need be, defend yourself by putting up your dukes and fighting back like your life depends on it.

 3. Kill them with kindness. Shh-yeah! Although it may work with bully-victims who bully you, it will never in this lifetime work with narcissistic bullies. Narcissists see kindness as weakness and will use it to their own ends and to crush you. Also, they’ll come back at you much harder because they see kindness as a bad reflection on them and they can’t handle anyone who naturally makes them look like scumbags.

The best thing to do with narcissists is to avoid contact with them altogether. Instead of killing them with kindness, kill them with indifference instead.

If you’re reading this, and you’ve ever been a target of bullying, feel free to comment about the bad advice you got from others in the below.

40 thoughts on “The Most Ridiculous Bullying Advice I Ever Received

  1. So many schools choose to ignore bullying and even in 2021 the measures they have in place (if any) are ridiculous. Tell you another thing people say that drives me insane is when people say bullying is “a rite of passage.”

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  3. I can’t believe we are still at the point now where more isn’t done about bullying? All of these anti bullying things in place, clearly don’t work, they’re as rubbish as the advice. “Keep you head down” is another one, as you have said, they will find you anyway, and this advice sounds very much like victim blaming x

    • Victim-blaming is too right! You nailed it! And yes, I’ve heard keep your head down too. I’d forgotten about that one. I’d also forgotten about “keep your nose clean.”

  4. “Keep you head down” which is very much like victim blaming if you ask me. If only you’d stayed out of there way! With all the anti bullying policies in place, you’d think we’d have better strategies by now x

  5. First-hand lessons learned Cherie. Sometimes you have to deal with these thugs one-on-one, because there is no one standard answer on how to handle your personal situation. Bullies, although classified as such, maneuver similarly (they’re predictable), yet can attack differently. Victims have to choose their counterattacks personally and methodically. 🤔

    Even with anti-bullying policies in place, these jokers will remain the a$%holes that they are, until they get the beat-down one day from some bully bigger than them! SMH 🤨

  6. For number one, may I swap “Ignore Them” to “Don’t Let It Get To You.” This makes it a total case of victim blaming because the target is seen as being thin skinned.

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