8 Reasons Why You Should Let Them Talk

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Gossips are everywhere! Too many people worry needlessly about what people are saying about them. But here’s the thing, people talk. They’re going to have something to say about you until the day you die. Get used to it. Better, yet embrace it! Love it!

Here’s Why:

1. When people talk about you, they make you relevant! Good or bad, it means you’re an exciting topic- you’re not dull. Remember that it’s much better to be good or bad than to be boring.

2. When people engage in petty gossip about you, it means that they can’t get you off their minds. Somehow, someway, positive or negative, you’ve made an impact on them. You’ve stirred emotions up in them.

3. When people talk about you, it means they don’t have lives of their own and are obsessed with yours, which means your life must be more exciting than theirs.

4. When people talk behind your back, they reveal much more about themselves than they do you. Remember the old proverb, “Great minds discuss ideas, Average minds discuss events, and Small minds discuss people.”

5. When people can’t shut up about you, you’re the one who’s in control of them. Because you occupy a large amount of space in their minds, you’ve affected them profoundly and with little or no effort.

6. The people who blab about you expend a lot of their energy on you while you get to save yours. They’re thinking of you without getting so much as a thought from you.

7. When you’re the topic of others’ discussions, it means that they’re your fans, only they don’t know it.

It’s important to reframe the situation. And smile as you’re the hottest topic around! Haters make you famous!

8. In a nutshell, when people can’t stop running their mouths about you, it only means that you have a tremendous amount of power over them and you didn’t have to make an effort to get that power! Yay, you!

So don’t give their talk any validation by reacting. Just sit back and be amused by the talkers, provided it’s just petty gossip and not defamation. I’ll distinguish between the two in a future post.

34 thoughts on “8 Reasons Why You Should Let Them Talk

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  2. Indeed! Another concept that proves you can’t get someone off your mind is lurking on their pages everyday. Then hoping to stir up conversation with them using fake accounts. I call that unhealthy obsession

  3. I love that comment about not having a life of their own. My Ex cyber stalks me. He had nothing better to do than set up numerous accounts and put all his energy into trying to get me to believe he was justified in assaulting me. To make me think I was the abuser

      • I was going to drop the restraining order provided took accountability and I’m upon doing so left me alone. But ra thee than be accountable he’s playing games like a child. Therefore, aside from the charges the cops pressed, I too will now be moving forward with pressing charges and pursuing it in full force. He had his chance. A window of opportunity to make it right. He didn’t. Now he can see what it feels like to face my wrath

          • Trust me, I am definitely not a victim. Im still me and I’m going to continue telling my story because millions of peeps out there need to hear it. I’m looking forward to the day I can look him dead straight in the eyes I’d love to see him get big and tough there like he’s doing online and how he did that night . I WILL stare him down and it won’t be a good feeling for him because it’ll be the first time he sees pure hate towards him from deep down in my soul. It will never make him feel good to have pissed away the best thing that ever happened to him and it sure won’t make him feel good to see the disgust on my face. WITH my PowerPoint presentation of photos of what he did to me AND my story. To add to the photos the cops already have. I was smart I took pictures of each day that passed through my healing. I’ve got lots of evidence

          • That’s just who I am. I’m a warrior through and through.
            I’ve been persevering in my journey for quite sometime. It’ll take a lot more than ERIC to take me down. I’m on a whole different level than he is. one he won’t ever reach.

            I sit with my traumas, pain, issues, troubles, stressors I reflect I heal I grow and learn.
            Because that’s what we’re suppose to do.
            No one ever said we’re suppose to throw our lives away for drugs that’s a choice.

            I know he tries to project his mental health issues unto me as though I’m the one that needs help. But July 16th is the only truth that speaks volumes. He may not have the emotional intelligence tools to handle life and it’s stressors, he can talk this big talk about spirituality all he wants. (Spiritual bypassing won’t get him anywhere in the long run, only into the same situation or worse. He needs to actually sit with it and work on him not self medicate or plow into other woman as a means to ignore it)

            He often expresses jealousy over the fact that my upbringing had more stability with my parents. Because I carry fond memories contemplative ones. I cherish those memories. No matter what I went through or experienced I had a solid support system.

            Eric experienced trauma he’s never dealt with. Maybe similar traumas the only difference is, my inquisitive mind continued flourishing. Choosing to ask the why’s the how’s with what’s and all that good stuff building deep connections and understandings rather than burning those bridges down over a tantrum.

            I put in my shadow work. That is why I am capable of turning pain into power. For I am shall always rise. I am Phoenix. 😉

            He may think he got away with what he did, and good for him. His karma will catch up to him. Universe will forgive once he’s revived his reckoning 🤫

          • Whoops and that was received not revived.

            Thank you 🙏🏼

            Eric has done many cruel things to me. A man who claimed I was his one and only … soul mate. Yet never truly gave US… OUR…WE a fighting chance. He couldn’t. He wasn’t capable. He only sees people for what he can take from them not how he can love them. Narcissism at its finest.

          • That’s sad and he’s the one who’s going to pay for it. Narcissists usually come to a very bad end. You see, they get old sooner or later and the older they get, the more of that youthful charm they lose. Most narcissists end up alone with no one to care when they get old. He will get his.

          • Those who know me personally say, I am the embodiment of pure light and strength … 🤫😬 I just say …. I’m ME🤤

      • Fella just does t have anything better to do with his life. He STILL wants me to believe I’m the abuser, manipulator psychopath, problem.

        In his mind assaulting me was justified because he’s carefully concocted this story and idea that I earned it by being that”abuser,manipulator, etc”

        Yet, in the reality of it lol he was the manipulator and abuser merry projecting his traits on me. A full on pathological warfare.

        He’ll never see the error in his ways and I suppose that’s why he’s spent the last twenty three years unhappy and in unrest

        • Again, I’m so sorry he is stalking you. Continue to go no contact and to block all his attempts to contact you. Know that just by his attempts to stalk you, you are the one who has all the power now. Keep shutting him down and moving on with your life, sweetie. Create the happiness you so richly deserve and have a right to. Sending you live and light. 🤗❤💐🌹

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