The Number One Indicator A Bully is Guilty of Something

How do you know a bully is guilty of something?

Easy! They’re busy accusing someone else of it.

Bullies are notorious for projecting. Anything they accuse you of doing, you can bet dollars to doughnuts they’re doing it. Put another way, bullies do the same things they accuse innocent targets of doing. Understand that this is how they tell off on themselves.

There’s so much truth to the saying that, any time you point a finger, there are always three pointed back at you.

Humans can never know the inner workings of anyone else but themselves. They see from their own perspectives and speak from their own thoughts and attitudes. It is why most cheating spouses will often accuse the other spouse of doing the cheating. Every wife or husband who’s ever been cheated on knows that this is a red flag that’s all too common.

Realize that any time you have some schmuck accusing you of something terrible that you know in your heart you’re not guilty of, the chances are high that your accuser(s) is/are the one(s) guilty of it. Projection is one of the oldest tricks in the book.

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Remember the quotes of Joseph Goebbels, a well-known propaganda minister:

“Accuse the other side of that which you are guilty.”

And…

“A lie told once remains a lie. A lie told a thousand times becomes the truth.”

So, understand that when bullies project, they’ll repeat the same lie over and over again until people (even you if you aren’t careful) begin believing it.

The more you know!

5 thoughts on “The Number One Indicator A Bully is Guilty of Something

  1. cherie,

    Interesting issue, however, may not be totally accurate across a broad spectrum of issues in life.

    For example, in the ancient Bible story of when Nathan accused King David of his sin, his accusation was a truth.

    https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=2%20Samuel%2012-13%2CLuke%2016&version=GW

    My point is we need both practical and Spiritual Wisdom to discern the character of our accusers and take the time to search out the truth if he or she is a bully, or is a wise or foolish accusation in my opinion.

    Regards and goodwill blogging.

    • Thank you for your thoughts. I agree that there are exceptions and Nathan was indeed an exception to this. It’s one thing if the person isn’t the type to accuse without evidence to support them and calls someone out for a misdeed, but it’s a different story when bullies accuse their targets and others of things, all the time, and without evidence. And they do it constantly. And I’ve discovered over the years that bullies do this to project and hide their own sins and imperfections.

      Nathan was simply calling David out on his sin with Bathsheba and having her husband killed and used the battlefield to do it. He wasn’t being a bully. Nathan asked David to repent because he was a messenger of God and concerned for David’s soul.

      I do appreciate your bringing this up and it needed to be addressed. I love that you brought this up. 🙂 Because it gave me an opportunity to explain the difference between a person legitimately calling someone out on a real wrongdoing and a bully who only flippantly fires off accusations without basis nor credible evidence.

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