Ever! It’s better to sit back, relax, and let Karma deal with them because I guarantee that Karma can do a much better job than you ever could. Besides, do you want to expend that kind of energy? That kind of ugliness? No. Because you’re better than that!
And they aren’t worth the effort. Revenge isn’t as sweet as it looks in the movies. In fact, it’s cancer that will eat you up inside if you dwell on it!
What’s so bad about hate is that you’re so preoccupied with the people who wronged you, and they may still have you convinced that they’re all-powerful and untouchable and that you’re powerless and at their mercy, though you may not admit it.
And this is why you’re just itching to exact revenge on them. You find yourself ruminating over the many times they bullied and abused you, and it will play over in your mind like a broken record. You’ll be plagued with the thought that they got away with it. Understand that all this will only eat down into your soul. It will rot inside of you, and cause nothing but more pain.
So, ask yourself. Are they worth it?
I understand that sinking feeling of defeat you get from knowing of the possibility that your bullies didn’t get theirs- that they can walk away free without the slightest clue that what they did was wrong. It’s normal to feel a sense of injustice.
And ignorance is bliss, and bullies are the most blissful people on the face of the earth! But understand that there’s a term for your bullies’ ignorance. It’s called willful ignorance, and it happens when your bullies convince themselves that they did nothing wrong and that you got what you deserved.
But realize that this is precisely what your bullies want you to think. Otherwise, they wouldn’t get such a thrill from it.
Revenge always escalates the bullying because bullies are known to get brutal to get what they want. And if you try to give them payback, it will only turn into a game of ping pong. It will go back and forth, back and forth again. It’ll be an endless game of tit for tat.
Continually replaying the bullying over and over in your head isn’t good at all! Because if you keep this up, you’ll never find happiness nor peace of mind. How can you move on with your life when you’re reliving the trauma?
Here are a few ways to reclaim your happiness and your life:
1.Seek Therapy. Never be too proud to seek therapy because it can help you process the negative feelings that poison your life. Therapy works. I’m living proof.
2. Write about it in a journal. Believe it or not, writing about it helps you to unload and get it out of your system, especially when bullies have cut you off from support through smear campaigns.
Not only are you building a good case and keeping a record of the bullying to use in case you must go to court, you are also providing yourself much-needed therapy. Writing is very therapeutic and cathartic. And once you get it out, even if only on paper, you’ll be surprised at how much better you’ll feel.
3. Spend time with people who feed your soul- the ones who love and care for you. Spending time with the people who love you the most can be a buffer for your self-esteem. It has a way of making up for all the hurt bullies cause you by giving you an equal or more amount of positivity in your life.
Keep company with those who make you feel best about yourself. Share happy times with them, laugh with them, because laughter truly is the best medicine!
4. Capture happy moments. Again, bullies have given you enough negative, sad and stressful moments. Why not balance that with just as many happy moments? And the best part is that we have the power to create those moments!
5. Go on a trip. Sometimes, it’s just good to steal away to a beach house on a secluded beach with your family or friends. Or you can visit an out of state relative. Whatever you decide, getting out of town helps to bring you out of stagnation and revive you. It also gives you a sense of adventure, and that always lifts the mood. So, pack your things and go!
6. Relax. Having been bullied can flood your mind with fear and negativity. It helps to shut off your mind, even for five minutes every day. Meditate on positive things. Focus on yourself and your personal goals. Meditate on God. It will help relax you and make you feel so much better.
Rear of man in hat relaxing on beach chair at beach with sea and blue sky background. vacation in summer.
7. Get up and move. Exercise not only makes you healthier and promotes weight loss and better muscle tone, but it can also be one heck of a stress buster. Whether you like High-Intensity Training with weights or a brisk walk through the park, it increases endorphins and other feel-good chemicals to help you feel better.
8. Indulge in hobbies. Hobbies not only make you feel accomplished, but they take your mind off your bullies and the bullying you suffered in the past. So, find something you enjoy doing the most and concentrate on it. Being creative is one of the best things you can do for yourself.
9. Focus on your goals. If you focus on your goals, you won’t have time to focus on your bullies from the past. They don’t deserve even to be an afterthought. So, focus on your goals and where you want to go. And make life all about those things. Keep doing your thing!
I want you to understand that bullies get so much pleasure from your misery. So, do all you can to add as much joy to your life as possible. And once you do, take pleasure in knowing that, if your bullies could see that you’re happy without them, they’d be so furious!
Sometimes you must play mind games with yourself. Does it sound strange? Possibly. But whatever works. Right?
No, you can’t pretend that the pain isn’t there. And you can’t bury it, or stuff it down because if it’s there, it will leak out eventually. But you do have to process it and do a lot of work on yourself before it goes away.
It will take a lot of work and time to do, but it will be worth it in the end. And you’re worth it! It’s all about self-care. And there’s nothing better than investing in yourself! I guarantee it!
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I know you wrote this about individuals, but I see a massive correlation to groups, too. For instance, the mobs, er “peaceful protesters” yesterday, because they hated the verdict Kyle was given… IF they had paid attention to the actual trial and evidence, they would know how foolish their reaction was… As is, I’m wondering is anyone will ever have a good explanation for why they are making that issue a racist event, when everyone involved was Caucasian…. The lack of logic astounds me.
Oh yes! There’s a strong correlation, Jeanne. The media, celebs, and corporations are doing the exact same thing to Kyle as bullies do to their targets. It’s exactly the same only on a much bigger scale and reaching a much wider audience.
I’m glad I’m not the only one who sees this correlation! Great advice in this blog, Cherie.
Thank you so much, Jeanne! I’m so glad you brought this up because it’s what I was thinking all along.
I’ve been watching that trial and the outcome, so it was on my mind… Have you been doing so, too?
I have and I have to tell you! I was so relieved when they found that kid not guilty. You see, the thing with the media is that they never show the entire clip, they edited out the stuff that would have exonerated him amd only showed the parts that suited them and their narrative. I think Kyle should get a defamation attorney and SUE the PANTS off every media outlet that libeled and slandered him!
I agree. I also heard Nicholas Sandman offered to talk to him… They do seem to be the only ones – at least publicly – who have endured that type of treatment.
I read that too, Jeanne. And I thought it was awesome that Nick Sandman reached out to Kyle. ❤
I’ve been trying to keep track of Kyle’s trial – at least the high points – day 1, I concluded it was a leftist farce and possibly being put on as a distraction and/or fuel for something else.
Amen! It was a media show, that’s it! And the distraction worked, for a while at least, until it fell flat! And the real kicker is that they aren’t stopping! Now they’re pissed off over the acquittal and are now going after his future prospects. But that won’t work either.
Amen!
That’s why I think Kyle should sue the crap out of them. Because he may find it difficult to get a good job and be accepted by colleges or even the military after this. I do hope he runs for some kind of office.
I heard he’d been accepted at some college – don’t actually WATCH the news, but hubby does and seems like someplace in AZ…. Assuming this is true, good on him for heading to somewhere different.
Oh, that’s awesome! I’m glad to hear that we still have a few colleges that are legit!
And yes, it doesn’t make sense. It just goes to show how mentally imbalanced and delusional the Left is.
I guess I can give up on finding any logic.
You really should, hon. There’s no point in searching for something that isn’t there. 🤷♀️
Hmmmm… dare I theorize that if someone isn’t logical, they might be a leftist?
Sure seems that way, don’t it? illogical and Leftism does seem to go hand in hand.
Lies and hatred seem to be around them, too.
Absolutely. There’s no logic in lies and hatred.
Cherie, I do think that the acceptance of karma means fully releasing revenge and anger from our system. In eastern cultures, quietness is strength. I find that no matter how you explain it away, you can’t be close to God and close to revenge. You can’t label people without judging them and the truth is the spiritual journey is a quiet one.
You’re absolutely right about everything you said here, Sue. 💯 And quietness is indeed strength. 💪
Really wonderful! Excellent advice. My wife is the first one that taught me, “they’re not worth it.”
Thank you so much! 😊 Your wife sounds like a very wise woman and she kept you grounded firmly. 💖💐🌹
Yep, for sure! Blessings.
Blessings to you too. 🙏 🙌
Brilliant tips. ♥️
Thank you so much, Amber! 💖 🤗
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These are all such good tips. Anger is a crippling emotion and if we an let go and let Karma take over that it a great response. In my life Karma has never let me down.
Absolutely! 💯🎯
Anger solves nothing with bullies, but the sweet revenge is making a success of yourself. I’m glad I wrote my first book. It may not have been my best writing, but I’m still proud of it. Her experiences weren’t exactly my experiences, but I wanted to show that bullying is never okay.
I’m so proud of you, honey! ❤ Congratulations on your book! 🎉👏 And yassss! 💯 Success really is the sweetest revenge and I’ve mentioned the same in many of my past posts. I’ve written and published four books about bullying, including a memoir about the six years in school during which I was bullied. Writing is such good therapy and helps you heal. 💖💐🌹🦋