In most cases, bullies have the benefit of followers and bystanders covering for them when they terrorize and brutalize their targets. Targets, on the other hand, get no leniency whatsoever, so, they must make extra efforts to keep their hands clean because, unlike the bullies, they can’t afford to break any rules. IF targets dare to engage in the same behaviors the bullies do, they’d quickly be fired, expelled, prosecuted, or worse, killed.
What targets are severely punished for bullies get away with. You see it all the time- in the schools, workplaces, and communities. For a target of bullying, there’s no margin for error. Targets don’t have the benefit of a cheering section. And if bullies can’t find anything to hold against the target, they’ll make something up.
Understand that bullies and their enablers don’t play by the same rules. When bullies engage in bad behavior, people are silent, and the bullies are exempt from accountability. While bullies get a pass for the worst behaviors, targets are persecuted for perceived or made up slights or normal human errors that anyone could make.
Realize that this is a clear-cut example of “bully privilege” and it’s real. It’s been around since the beginning of time.
During the Medieval Period, kings had scapegoats who were blamed for mistakes and wrongdoing- scapegoats, who were executed. If targets expect to defend themselves properly, they must stop being so shocked about it and realize that such things exist.
Targets must prepare and stop being blindsided because it will only throw them off balance and hinder their ability to think properly.
Realize that we live in a fallen world and one that isn’t just. Also, understand that nothing is impossible and that we should expect the unexpected.
Only then will you be able to come up with a strategy and protect yourself more effectively.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
Bonjour
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En ce petit matin, je te souhaite une merveilleuse journée
Que chacune des 24 heures à venir ne soit que plaisir
Que ce jour soit doux et qu’il t’emporte réussite et prospérité.
Bise amicale Bernard
Thank you so much, Bernard! 😊
Yes, life is not fair, so we need to work out what we can do to survive x
You’re absolutely right, Kayleigh! Thank you so much. 💖💐🌹
So true!!
Thank you, Valerie. I hope this finds you well, sweetie. 😊
Its a scapegoating culture in many ways were the ones who seem so weak have actually had power stolen and are then blamed for not being able to ‘get it together.’ It is so so tough always being the scapegoat.
It certainly is, sweetie! 💯 And you’re also right in that there’s a culture of scapegoating.
<3 🙂 thank God you can help others see this.. its one of my aims too.. as its tough to get out from under it.. if you are so called 'scapegoat identified' and that gets set up sometimes in childhood.
Yes it does. And it can follow you for the rest of your life. Thank goodness I left that town and the bullies and their minions don’t know where I live. They may try to contact me through social media at times but they can’t find me physically. So, I don’t worry. Sometimes you have to move somewhere that you can get a fresh start. I’ve never regretted it.
That is the best thing you did Cherie.. It sounds intense and so so aggressive.. it was brave you have a real purpose now.. so much can come out of suffering if we can learn to put it to good use…
Thank you so much. 💖 It was the best thing. After I got married to my first husband and when I was four months pregnant, and visibly so, with my first child, two bullies from school jumped me and could’ve hurt me and my unborn child badly. I left because I was afraid that if I raised my children in that town, they would target them too. I didn’t want that for my babies.
That is so awful.. I am so glad you are both okay.
We are. My son is now 31 years old and 6’4″ tall and husky. He works in IT and he’s more computer savvy than I am. 😊🤗
Aww thats gorgeous….I know I still get confabulated on technology having been born in the 60s lol.. I am so glad you have each other..
Thank you so much. 💖 Aaron is my heart and I don’t know what I’d do without him! He’s still my little boy! And my gentle giant! 😍
He always will be … 🙂
Thank you so much for your kindness and encouragement! It’s my blogger friends and readers who keep me encouraged and the bullied people everywhere who keep me motivated. 💖💐🌹
Its so great this platform gives us a community honestly coming out of my last relationship with a bully it has saved my life………….
Oh my goodness! I’m so glad this helps you. And I’m so proud of you for getting away from that bully! That takes courage! Do you know how strong and brave you are? Keep doing you, sweetie! 💖💐🌹
Thank you.. I so appreciate your support, lovely. <3
My pleasure, honey. 🤗🤗🤗