You Are What You Think

You’ve heard the quote, “You are what you eat.” So, it goes with your thought processes. You are also what you think.

Targets of bullying can start off as confident and outgoing people. But after years of bullying and abuse, they become insecure, afraid, and withdrawn. Sometimes, they can turn against themselves. They began to think that they aren’t worthy of anything good in life. They stop believing in their own good qualities. They no longer think they’ll ever be loved, ever be accepted, or ever be successful and that nothing will ever go right for them.

Law of Attraction

Then, sure enough, things begin to happen that matches their thoughts and feelings. These poor people began to fall out with friends and family, they have back-to-back bad breaks. They finally develop feelings of self-loathing and end up alone, rejected, unsuccessful, and unlucky.

Here’s how it works:

You must realize that your thought patterns determine your outlook (attitude).

Your outlook determines your decisions and behavior.

Your decisions and behavior determine your outcomes.

Your outcomes determine your life and the events that happen in it.

All this then re-enforces your outlook or attitude.

This becomes a cycle and cycles always repeat themselves.

Anytime you think a thought, you send a message out into the universe and, sooner or later, you get a response that matches, and the response always returns as an event, situation, or circumstance. And once it becomes a vicious cycle in your life, it’s damn hard to break that cycle.

Know that this cycle can be broken, but it takes a lot of time, patience, and hard work. I can tell you from experience that the changes won’t happen overnight, and the reason is that, once a pattern is set, unseen forces (like your subconscious mind, for instance) will, at first, fight against any change you try to make. You could say that these unseen forces (your subconscious) have become comfortable with the way things are and, just as most people hate change, so do the higher powers at work.

But know that if you keep at it, your breakthrough will present itself eventually. It has to after a while because of your refusal to give up.

Therefore, if you’re a target of bullying, you must be very careful that you don’t allow your bullies and the lies and toxic messages they send to influence the way you think of yourself. You must fight like the devil to hold on to your self-belief. Your life and its trajectory depend on it!

If you hold on to your positive attitude and sense of self from the very beginning, you’ll save yourself a lot of time and hard work in the future. Most of all, you’ll save yourself from a lot of future pain and misery.

With knowledge comes empowerment!

49 thoughts on “You Are What You Think

  1. Thank you so much for sharing such a wonderful post. I find it very informative and useful. Every day I am learning something new and important.

  2. Thank you for your words… It is hard, but can be done! I spent so long living with my bullies words like a rollercoaster in my head, constantly on repeat, about what a terrible person I am and it was a struggle to get off the ride, but I did. Since I moved out of that area just over a year ago, perseverance, sharing my story, reading blogs like yours, and with intense therapy with my doctor, and I am glad to say I am finally off that ride for good!

    • I completely get it, sweetie. It takes a long time to get pver the flashbacks once you’ve been targeted and it took me a while too. I’m so sorry you were treated so horrifically. But I’m so glad you’re getting your confidence back and with it, your life. 💖

  3. Outstanding stuff! So true!!! Taking control of it thoughts is totally within our power, we just need more people to realize it.

  4. Oh, I love the way you wove how our thought patterns determine our outlook (attitude) on life Cherie. 💖 Now, this is a message that anyone can connect to. The cycle can be broken as you duly noted my friend. Thanks for sharing this great reminder for all of us, my dear! You rock! 👏🏼🥰👍🏼

  5. Ones sense of self can be completely decimated in some relationships.. The last one I had was full of so many put downs that in times I questioned everything while trying so hard to be what he wanted.. Recently someone said to me “someone who does not love and accept you as you are will leave you as soon as they find someone else” so what is the point of trying? Because possibly as kids we never got to develop that strong foundation.. but it can be done..

  6. Thank you so much for sharing.
    It’s so true the effects that bullying can have on people. When people treat other people like trash, it has a strong lasting effct. If we begin to think of ourselves as less, we tend to become that.
    Interesting post.

    • You’re most welcome, Joanne. You’re right about everything you mentioned here. 💯 And if bullied long enough, those thoughts become subconscious and that’s when you have to work the hardest to change your mindset.

  7. I’ve been lucky in that since I have been an adult, I haven’t let other’s treatment of me affect how I feel about myself. And as I grew even older, realized how someone treated me spoke more about them than it did about me.

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