When a Target Has the Chutzpah to Reject a Bully

I can tell you what happened when I deleted one of my former classmates. Before I go any further with my story, I’ll tell you this.

Nobody likes being rejected and dismissed – especially by someone they think is inferior to them. That’s a blow to the ego like one other!

When a bully gets dismissed by the victim, he thought for so long was too weak to stand up to him, oh my God! He. LOSES it! Why? Because in an instant, the victim finally stood his ground, he snatched his power back and left the bully powerless over him for once! Now the bully must go through the headache of finding a new target! Gasp!

This is precisely what happened with my old bully classmate when I unfriended her for a few offhand and snide comments she made on a few of my posts. She became furious! She couldn’t stand it! And I’ve got to tell you. I’m laughing as I’m typing this and thinking back about two years ago.

This half-crazed woman blew up my inbox. And with such vitriolic rage!

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Oh, my goodness! How dare I! The nerve! The audacity! The chutzpah of me! O-M-G! I’m such a fake! I’m such a pissy person who deleted her because I got called out! Oooooo! Poor baby! I’m such a weak little bitch who can’t take constructive criticism!

Those were her words before I laughed and pushed that little godsend of a block button. I would’ve pushed the button sooner, but to tell you the truth, I was getting a real kick out of her reaction, and I wanted to give her time to shoot herself in the foot. Sure enough, she did.

I took screenshots of her messages, one in which she repeatedly asked, “Why did you delete me?”, then plastered them all over the internet. The icing on the cake was that the other classmates saw the screenshots too and they were shocked.

Knowing she’d been punked before the eyes of some of her old high school buddies, this she-bully went even more berserk. And it was so fun to watch!

I kid you not. There wasn’t enough popcorn in the world!

You see, this woman thought that I was weak in high school and never bet on the possibility that I might have smartened up a little in the three decades since. So, I went ahead and let her assume what she wanted and trapped her with it.

Realize that anytime you reject a bully, you immediately take your personal power back and you automatically put the bully in a position of weakness- you put her in a position of inferiority. You flip the script and take the position of power over the bully. This is why bullies cannot handle rejection because they feel that they must always be in the position of power in a relationship, especially the bully/target relationship.

I want you to know that standing up to and ditching a bully isn’t as hard as you think. It’s quite easy if you don’t let fear or any intense emotion get in your way. Remember that bullies get their power from getting you emotional. And when you finally come to a place where you’re no longer intimidated or angered by them, the better you’ll be able to use your head, find some leverage, and use it as a weapon.

You must understand that when bullies fly into a rage, they no longer have the ability to think clearly. You then have the opportunity to use it to your advantage and make them look like a complete doorknob.

With knowledge comes empowerment!

83 thoughts on “When a Target Has the Chutzpah to Reject a Bully

  1. I think even 50 years on, my bullies would assume I was the same weak person I was back then. They will probably never find out otherwise. Well done to you for calling that she-bully out.

  2. Hi Cherie 🙂

    up above, you write “I deleted one of my former classmates” — and immediately stopped reading and went to this comment box.

    You didn’t delete anyone (of course) — it doesn’t matter which so-called “platform” you were using. What *maybe* happened is something more akin to: you informed your dear “platform” that you want to change your settings *on that platform* such that one particular profile *on that platform* ought to be excluded from your “filter bubble” *on that platform*. I wonder if your real former classmate could still reach you *on that platform* via advertising *on that platform* — like, “is there an app for that?” 🙂

    🙂 Norbert

    • Thank you for your thoughts. She probably could reach me on another platform, but I’d block her there too. As far as advertisements, I’ve never heard of trolls using ads to reach their targets, this is not to say that it doesn’t happen, but it’s news to me.

      • Regardless of how many platforms you use, though (save a platform that you yourself manage, because it is your own platform), you would not be blocking anyone by informing the platform that you do not want them in your “filter bubble”. Like I said above, I stopped read when you said that — but now that you have shown me such consideration, I will DL & read the rest (and perhaps also “review” it sometime 😉 )

      • My narc ex-husband hoovered “by proxy” as I called it, randomly signing me up for dubious email lists without my permission. Nobody has that address. He also went around downvoting my youtube videos, usually ones for which we shared the DVD. Since I left him, I blocked him on all socials and my phone, email, etc. I wish he and others like him would get a hobby or two. He is clearly bored.

        • Hee-hee-hee! 😂🤣 I know right! Narcissists don’t have a life, especially their flying monkeys! They sure don’t have a life because they let the narco-path control and use them to get to you! But you can bet that as soon as these weak little worker bees have served their purpose, the narc will discard them like yesterday’s trash!

          • I keep reminding myself that he is not my problem anymore, and envision him doing the same crapitty crap to his flying monkeys which he had done to me. they can have him

          • That’s right! And another thing about narcissists, Jen. They usually get theirs in the end because as they get older, they lose their charm. I’ve know a few narcissists who grew old and died and they ended up old, alone, and miserable because no one wanted anything more to do with them. Narcs usually come to a very bad and sad end.

          • Indifference truly is a wonderful thing 😉 In economics, there’s a very fundamental thing called an “indifference curve” — you can exchange X amount of this for Y amount of that + be just as happy (nice line by Kurt Cobain / Nirvana: “maybe just happy…” 🙂

          • It sure is! 💯🎯😉 And I’ve heard of that when I took economics- bartering. And I also like many songs by Nirvana- “Heart Shaped Box” being my favorite! 💖

  3. Good for you. My father used to go ballistic whenever I had the nerve to say NO to him: “Nobody ever says NO to me…I am perfect, I am always right, I always know what to do, I am always in charge, How dare you defy me?” I am exagerating, but
    not by much…😢😢😢

  4. Each of your posts makes you more adorable. I am highly impressed with you. You have inspired me a lot with your fabulous posts.

  5. You did it! No chances for bullies. I couldn’t help laughing though. You kicked the tick in the as 🤣🤣! Away with her. I’m learning some new important tricks. Thanks, Cherie. 💕🌟🌟💕

  6. What you posted reminds me of a “collapsed narcissist,” all bumhurt because their con game to gain supply failed. Boo-hoo I say as I play the world’s tiniest violin.

  7. Good for you girl! That is exactly what bullies want. The get power thinking they put you in your place. And I will tell you when you know you have got them. They will start taking the low road by saying things like calling a person a Bitch (By the way though that is a word normally used on females, I have heard males called that before usually by another male trying to esmaculate them) or other names. The truth is they never had any real power to begin with. It takes guts to stand up to a bully but a lot of times the power we think they have is power we assume they have. And you know what? Here is how you can tell who your friends are and who decent people are. Friends have your back and would stand up and fight for you and good decent people who may not even know you that well or at all, see through bullies as well and will never condone their behavior and sometimes even stand up for someone they do not know.

    • You’re spot on with everything you said here. Bullies do call guys that word to attack their manhood. And I cannot tell you how many times I’ve had the “bitch” word thrown at me when I stood my ground. It didn’t work but only solidified my position not to give them what they wanted. Thank you so much for your thoughts here! 💖💐🌹🦋🕊

  8. And let me address this “Constructive Criticism” thing that bullies use to justify their behaviors. First of all, constructive criticism needs to primarily come from true friends, family that loves you, teachers, pastors, employers, etc that love and care about you and truly want to see you do better. Not to get political here and I am talking about both sides and media and everything (so if anyone wants to try to defend one side over the other don’t, it is bad on both ends), but we live in such a politicized world that we spend most of our time yelling at the other side, telling them they are wrong about everything, never listening to opposing points of view and always riding the insult train. It is one thing to offer true constructive criticism. Most people don’t do anything constructively. They do things to try to control and attempt to bully.

    • Right again! Bullies use the name constructive criticism to gaslight. There’s constructive criticism and then there’s destructive criticism. Bullies only use DESTRUCTIVE criticism.

  9. Well now, looks like you ignited somebody’s fuse box! 🧨🤯😬😱💣 I think I see a few splatters of brain matter outside my window! LOL 🤭🤫🤕 Well, if ya can’t take it don’t dish it out, and as Forrest Gump says, “That’s all I have to say about that!” Let the Side Show begin! 🤨😲😜

  10. You are so right! I have found that walking away from confrontational people has more power than trying to fight back. Leave them alone in their misery.

    Sometimes, though, peoples words and negativity stick with me even when I had the strength to walk away. I need to learn to let these things go and live in joy.

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