Whose Life Are You Living? Yours or Theirs?

Uh-oh! Here they go again! It seems that every time you as much as blink, someone else has got their honker in your business- telling you how you ought to do things, how you should act, telling you how you should live your life and having the chutzpah to think they can make your decisions for you. Let’s face it, the world is full of nosy people.

And if you are a target of bullying, you will have others trying to invade your life, your personal business, and your boundaries. And let me tell you, when it seems that no one will let you lead your own life in peace, life can go from enjoyable to unbearable real quick. That’s why you must be assertive in cases like this.

Understand that you can’t please everyone and you shouldn’t even try to.

Put simply, the only ones you must live your life for is God, your family, your closest and most trusted friends, and yourself.

Too many people care what the wrong people think of them- the wrong people, meaning bullies, toxic people- people they don’t like. Realize that you aren’t living their life, you’re living yours. So, you must make decisions that best fit the situations and circumstances surrounding your life.

You must do what’s best for you, not what’s best for them, or, rather, what others want you to do. Half the time, they don’t even know what they want nor what’s best for them. So, how can they claim to know what’s best for you if they haven’t a clue what’s best for their own lives?

You must do what makes you healthier, what makes you feel good, and what makes you whole. You must do what fulfills you, not other people. Don’t worry about them. It’s up to them to make their lives easier and pleasant. It’s not your responsibility. Just the same, it’s up to you to make your life better, it’s not their place to do it.

There will always be others who want to insert their two cents where it isn’t needed, and they’ll be downright abusive about it. They’ll attempt to order you around or deride you over your life-decisions.

There will be those who will try to run your life and you should be prepared for it. But know that when they do this, they’re stepping out of their place, and you have every right to tell them to go kick rocks.

The old, popular 1990’s idiom, “All up in your koolaid and don’t know the flavor” wasn’t coined for nothing. And the sad thing is that most people don’t bother to lend a hand but they’re real quick to point a finger.

Understand that we each have responsibility over our own lives. Stop trying to spare the feelings of those who insist on sticking a nose where it doesn’t belong. Tell these people to keep their snouts out of your business. Your life is yours to lead, no one else’s. So, stop worrying about what others think and say of you. They may not like the way you live or think, but that’s their problem, not yours.  Your life and the life-choices you make are no one’s business but yours.

With knowledge comes empowerment!

37 thoughts on “Whose Life Are You Living? Yours or Theirs?

  1. I think my main kindness to other people is leaving them alone…and I try to mostly rely on myself…there’s a million people and services in the city whenever I need something, which is rare. If your happiness is based on someone else’s misery, it isn’t happiness ..it is a fleeting pleasure that will bite you in the ass…hard. Thanks Angel, you do good 🤗🤗🤗🤗

    • You’re most welcome! ” If your happiness is based on someone else’s misery, it isn’t happiness ..it is a fleeting pleasure that will bite you in the ass…” You’re absolutely right, Jim! 💯💯💯

  2. Much needed reminder that we are the only ones to look after ourselves. Many a times, our likes and interests take a back seat and our life is driven by other people’s opinion and happiness. But if they are truly our well wishes, they will understand our choices and decisions.

  3. AMEN to this: Too many people care what the wrong people think of them- the wrong people, meaning bullies, toxic people- people they don’t like. Realize that you aren’t living their life, you’re living yours.

    Girlfriend, all too often we need such a reminder to remember who we are and whose life we are living, theirs or ours??? Thanks for this message for today Cherie!!! 👏🏼🥰🎆🤔🙏🏼

    • You’re most welcome, sweetie! I sure needed to hear this myself when I was young and naive! It’s almost embarrassing, even now, just how clueless I was years ago, when I was young! 😳 Sheesh! But, it was one heck of a learning experience and I’m glad I saw the lesson in it! 🕊🦋🕊🦋 Again, thank you so much for your love and support! ❤💐🌹🕊💜🦋

      • Cherie, girlfriend don’t ever think you were the only one who was, as you said so eloquently, “clueless.” I was one of those in the number too, even if some people refuse to admit it. But girl, when you live and you learn…you LIVE!!! Thank you for gracing us with such beautiful lessons to take throughout out our day ladybug!!! 🐞👏🏼🐦🌞🌺🦜🙏🏼🦋🍸

  4. When I was in the service, there was this guy who saw me as his pet project. His claim was that he was just trying to give me advice and being helpful but whenever I made what could be seen as a mistake, he was there to rub my nose in it and whenever I was in a dispute with others, he’d take their side. Of course, when I had enough of his crap, I’d snap and tell him to but the hell out of my life, he’d try to make me out to be ungrateful and try to play the victim. Fortunately, it didn’t take long before others saw through him as well.

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