Reasons Bullies Need Targets to Depend on Their Approval

Sadly, bullies successfully convince targets that they must depend on them for something. It’s true.

“Depend on bullies? For what?” You may ask.

For acceptance and approval. For the ability to make friends and establish relationships. Yes, many targets of bullying have been hoodwinked into thinking that they should depend on bullies to have these things. This is how bullies keep targets essentially begging for it- by dangling carrots of the possibilities of having them. And the reasons why bullies do this is to keep their targets under their control and to force them to do what they want them to do.

Think about it. Domestic abusers, who are also bullies, do basically the same to their partners- keep them dependent in order to keep control of them. Only domestic abusers keep their partners dependent mostly on financial resources by keeping a tight grip on any money that come into the household.

Domestic abusers also close their partners off from any job opportunities and cutting them off from their friends and family who may see through them and convince their partner to leave.

Abuse is abuse, whether it comes in the form of bullying or domestic violence and psychological manipulation.

Oh! But wait!

Socialist and Communist governments (again, also bullies) always do this to their peoples- make and keep them dependent on them to keep control of them, their behavior, and their thoughts. These tyrannical governments keep their citizenry dependent by controlling all the resources- food, the water supply, energy distribution, income and wealth distribution.

Because, if you can keep someone dependent, you can make the rules and tell them what they can and cannot do. Even worse, you can force them to put up with horrible conditions and treatment- things that they wouldn’t, under normal circumstances, tolerate. You can control every aspect of a person’s life if you can make them depend on you for their very survival!

When bullies do this, they keep you afraid to be your own person, to exercise your autonomy, speak freely, be creative, and to flourish. They keep you fearful of standing up to them, calling them out of their atrocious behavior and abuse, and of asserting your God-given right not to be controlled and abused.

Understand that bullies, domestic abusers, and oppressive governments/regimes have the same in common- to control everyone and destroy their targets. It’s how they keep everyone dependent and obligated, and, therefore preserve dominance and power over.

Realize that in the minds of bullies, other people are only there for their convenience, their purpose, and their agenda. Nothing more!

With knowledge comes power!

25 thoughts on “Reasons Bullies Need Targets to Depend on Their Approval

  1. Excellent, Cherie. It’s amazing to know how the mindset of bullies work. Thank you so much for sharing your valuable tips and suggestions to get the better of them.

  2. These primitve people steal their energy, friends, money, solutions at work, because they are lazy . They dont have the creativity to offer solutions, they hide their incapacity behind their violence.

  3. “Realize that in the minds of bullies, other people are only there for their convenience, their purpose, and their agenda. Nothing more!”
    Yes, Cherie, they, in general, don’t have a conscience!

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    Combien de fois entendons-nous ce refrain
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    Pourtant, il brille pour chacun de nous
    Avec des heures différentes de rendez-vous

    Il ne peut pas, être partout à la fois
    Il a donc bien souvent, à faire des choix
    Si nos jours se ressemblaient tout l’temps
    Les trouverions-nous toujours, aussi amusants

    Le soleil est pour nous un bon compagnon
    Nous devrions apprécier son intervention
    Quand il nous envoie ses amis les nuages
    Le ciel nous donne des jours gris avec la pluie

    Du soleil, on devrait tous s’en faire un ami
    Le comprendre comme avec un ami, un frère un proche ect….
    Belle journée belle semaine
    Que le soleil t’accompagne
    Amitié

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