Something Schools with Cultures of Bullying Rarely Think About

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“When bullied children stay home to avoid hurtful relationships, schools lose tens of millions of dollars each year, a new study says.” (Education Week)

According to The Atlantic (theatlantic.com) in a 2013 article by Eleanor Barkham, “160,000 kids stay home from school each day to avoid being bullied.” (https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp/.theatlantic.com/amp/article/280201/)

It adds up. Imagine those numbers per week, per month, and school year.
Each state funds each of its schools a specific dollar amount per day, per child in attendance. Therefore, when a student is absent from class on any given day, the school loses money for that particular student.

Many schools choose to sweep incidences of bullying under the rug. Even sadder is the fact that all too often, it’s the victims who get labeled the troublemakers, blamed for the incident, and punished while the bullies get let off the hook.

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This only encourages the bullies to bully the victim later. It’s the same cycle, which is why many victims begin skipping school to avoid their tormentors and the teachers and staff who continuously blame them for their own suffering.

I can’t say I blame these kids for staying home. Many times, I skipped class myself when I was in school and a victim of harassment. Who wants to be in an environment where they’re used and abused? You might as well stay home because you’re so busy watching your back that you don’t learn anything.

If bullying isn’t addressed at the district level, more bullied kids will skip school to avoid being tormented, and schools will lose more funds.

In my opinion, it serves these schools, right! It’s funny how things always run full circle!

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39 thoughts on “Something Schools with Cultures of Bullying Rarely Think About

  1. I pretended to be sick all the time and in high school I probably skipped a third of my classes…I almost didn’t graduate…people thought I was stupid 😓😓

  2. Our school funding system didn’t work like this in 1970s or 80s here in 🇿🇦 South Africa. And, as I was a teacher’s kid, getting bullied was guaranteed and, of course, I couldn’t call upon Dad. Just had to take it on the chin and man up. The pent-up frustration is perhaps why I had brought bullying political leaders down, except for the idiot of 16 Jan 2021. Let God sort him out instead.

  3. And kids miss a ton of school because of bullying often faking illness or missing the school bus and hiding somewhere.

  4. I really think and I don’t know what the answer to it is but parents and concerned citizens have got to start taking a stand against schools that allow bullying. Everyone should do research and find out their school systems bullying policy. A few still don’t have them and many that do let’s just say is generic as all get out. Schools should have mandatory training for all teachers, staff, and administration on dealing with bullies and if a child is tormenting other kids they should become the parents problem. People need to start protesting against schools and school boards that do nothing but allow their kids to be tortured. We all have got to get our heads out of the sand and do more than complain but never take action and always want someone else to do the work.

    • Parents are beginning to stand up against bullying. However, if they’re are bullies in the school-system, they’ll only retaliate against the parents if they have a lot of power. But this doesn’t mean the parents should stop fighting for the rights of their children.
      Also, anti-bullying policies are good but in most cases, only as good as the paper they’re printed on. Many school boards have bullies sitting on them, and as we know, are well connected. They only ignore the policies.

      But still, parents should keep fighting and many do even at the risk of themselves and their children being doxxed by the school board. That happens a lot these days.

  5. We have a granddaughter who is going through this right now. She is biracial and the bully is calling her derogatory names. Her mother has been to the school numerous times, but nothing happened. The last time she stayed home playing sick, we went as the grandparents. I think the only soltion will be to change schools next year.

    • My heart breaks for your granddaughter, Molly! 💔 And sadly, in many cases, the target usually has to change schools before things get better- especially if the bullying has gone on for a long time and the bullies have become comfortable with mistreating their target. Please let her know that none of their rotten behavior is her fault and that there’s nothing wrong with her. Please tell her that she is enough and that she has value no matter what her classmates tell her. 💖💐🌹

        • She’s very fortunate! If it’s only one girl, chances are that bullying will die down fairly quickly because if the kids aren’t going along, the bully will pick up on that and go pick on someone who has less support. I just feel terrible for the next kid too.

  6. I had no other choice, I couldn’t have skipped school. The truant officer was everywhere. Furthermore, any attempts to feign sickness was just seen by mother and grandmother as just an excuse to not go to school and nothing to do with bullies. I just had to endure it.

  7. Girl Cherie, now ain’t this the truth that I have heard other parents mention:
    “Many schools choose to sweep incidences of bullying under the rug. Even sadder is the fact that all too often, it’s the victims who get labeled the troublemakers, blamed for the incident, and punished while the bullies get let off the hook.”

    It’s almost the same with a whistleblower. Report the atrocity and you are the problem. 😱 That’s pretty screwed up. Thanks for bringing attention to that point girlfriend. 😯👍🏼🤗

  8. I hope this comment lands on the correct post. My techno-equipment is glitching. Good entry. Schools lose big dollars when they mishandle bully events. Our schools lose about $60 dollars, per child, when kids are out of school. Times that times hundreds of days each year, you have huge $ loss to the public school system. Schools, centers, colleges & senior centers need to get smarter when bullies are reported to them. Also, great book review… sounds like a good book on a very important topic.
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  9. The school system right now is definitely not addressing bullying how it should, like many other issues. There is a pervasive problem of not really administrating fitting consequences, if there are any consequences at all. As a teacher, we put up with admin not really backing us up with effective consequences, and at times we end up needing to fend off terrible student behavior alone in the classroom.

    • My heart goes out to you. 💔 And you’re right! Schools have never really addressed the problem I don’t think. And school boards and teacher’s unions are a joke and a waste of taxpayers money. They don’t care about the students or teachers. They only care about power and money. That’s it. Teachers don’t have any rights anymore and the boards of education nor teachers unions back them. School boards and teacher’s unions are all about politics, that’s it.

        • I’m so glad to hear this. 💖🙂 Some teacher’s unions get some good people who truly want to help. However, most are terrible. There are good teachers who get no support whatsoever. It takes a special person to teach these days. Teaching has become a dangerous profession these days.

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