When Bullies Suddenly Act Like Buddies- Here’s What’s Really Going On

You know what I’m talking about. People who treated you like garbage in the past then suddenly, just up and decide that you’re the best thing since sliced bread? Yup! Those!

They’ll gush over you and pour on the compliments, and man! Do they lay it on thick! These people tell you how wonderful you are and that they got you all wrong and misjudged you. They’ll show you excessive attention and laugh at your jokes with their counterfeit laughs. Yet, your internal alarm is going off in the pit of your gut because something feels “off” about these little encounters.

These bullies act so sappy, stand a little too close, and gush over your small wins and accomplishments. They seem to latch on to you like a tick to a dog.

I’ve had bullies do the same to me in the past, and when they did, my first thought was, “Ewww,” “Yuck,” or any other utterance of total disgust. It was downright sickening, and as hard as it was not to look them in the eye and say, “Okay. What do you want,” I only humored them for a while.

But sooner or later, they got careless and stupid. The bullies ended up showing their cards without realizing it until it was too late.  I’d say something that rubbed them the wrong way or have a belief they didn’t share. Then, all hell broke loose.

Isn’t it funny when bullies let their emotions tell the truth about them?

The point is that the nice act doesn’t mask evil intentions. Ever. Bullies will try it, but they end up giving themselves away eventually. But there’s more. Before they give themselves away, you can often tell that something isn’t right. You can hear the fakery in their voices, and you know they’re trying a little too hard to sound convincing. It’s as if they aren’t only trying to convince you; they’re also trying to convince themselves!

My advice is to get away from these people. Fast! Because they’re up to something. You might not know what that “something” is, but for your safety, ditch these fools and have nothing to do with them. If something feels wrong, listen closely. Your instinct never lies.

With knowledge comes empowerment.

43 thoughts on “When Bullies Suddenly Act Like Buddies- Here’s What’s Really Going On

  1. Wow this is so accurate. I had a bully colleague who treated me like dirt but when she realised I was quitting suddenly acted like my best friend and the most concerned person. It was nauseating & unnerving.

  2. This is so true. That fake niceness just alerts all kind of warning signs and negative gut feelings.
    Most of the time, there’s a nasty catch.

  3. Bullies get lonely too. Maybe sometimes they have to befriend “losers” until cool people come back. Happened to me all the time. It would easier if they stayed the same. And it was usually part of some scam anyway…they would lure me into some kind of trap where they could assualt me to their tiny hearts’ delight

    • I don’t doubt they get lonely, they mistreat so many people that they end up losing out and being lonely in the end. And as with you, the only reason bullies become “nice” is to lure their targets in so they can hurt them again. It happened to me too. Thank you so much for your thoughts, Jim. 🙂

  4. Keep up your very extra special forum Cherie. I love reading your wonderful subject with grace and dignity. You a one in a million who understands humanity. Lately, I have been working in the headquarters typing News. So tragic brothers and sisters at War. I am a Journalist. Keeping track of Cherie is very hectic. Thank you for sharing your experience and the information is so significant. Congratulations 🎉 Shalom 😔✨

  5. What’s more is that these bullies will even stick up for you against your other bullies. It is usually because the ‘friendly’ bully has an issue with the other bully at the time.

  6. Cherie, even in the seriousness of this subject, somehow the humor you inject in it makes me enjoy your read. Case and point:
    “They seem to latch on to you like a tick to a dog.” 🤣😝😆🐕🐶🐩😜😂😁

    Thanks for a good read and for making my day girlfriend! 🌟🌞✨

    • You’re so welcome, girl! 💖💕😁I like to inject a little humor because laughter heals the wounds, sweetie! I’m so glad you enjoyed this post! You are one of the most positive and encouraging people I know and I’m so glad God put you in my path! 💕💕💕

  7. Truth! These kind are the scariest and most dangerous in my opinion! I run for the hills! Thanks for sharing and reminding us that discernment (that inner voice) is so important to listen to! Best Wishes! Leigh

  8. In my experience, flattery of any kind from a bully is yet another setup for punishment and pain later on. Always a motive/agenda attached to any show of kindness.

  9. Girlllllll you nailed it!!! I have experienced this and it took age for me to be able to tell those people “get away from me”. Ughhhh I just had this happen about a month ago. I just don’t understand how people can be so inconsistent with their feelings of plain OPPORTUNIST!

    • Thank you so much, Bella! I’ve been there too and fell for that garbage when I was young and naive- I ended up looking like a complete fool. Thank goodness you and I both learned from it and can spot fakery a mile away now!

      I never understood people like that either but I’ve learned that they do it because they get their kicks out of humiliating another person. It’s for their entertainment. And it’s sick and twisted!

  10. This is a great post! Yes people sometimes make a mistake and are remorseful for their actions. But I think it is important to have a skeptic’s idea when someone does an about face, especially one that is an immediate turnaround. It is one thing if you run into someone ten years later or they reach out 10 years later or whatever. They may deserve a chance but even that needs to be proven. If you are in school and have been tormented for years or the entire school year watch out. True bullies don’t let up, they keep at it and if they have been trying to destroy you for months or years, outside (and I am sincere about this) of then truly finding Jesus, a leopard doesn’t change their spots that abruptly. They are setting you up for a fall. They will even do things like invite you to the prom (See Carrie or Never Been Kissed) and then set you up for humililation. If the person does seem sincere, give them an opportunity to prove their sincerity but tread lightly. If they are legit, then time will prove that.

  11. Another great post! I’ve had that happen with a few different people where I was like “Wow things seem to be a lot better with them” and that was right before they tried their worst attacks.

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