There’s a reason why some people make it a point to never to worry until it’s time to worry. What’s going to happen will happen, and they refuse to worry about things that haven’t occurred yet- and may never come to pass.
Too many people worry needlessly, which is why we had the stock market crash and the numerous closing and shortages of necessities last year, when COVID first hit. Was and is COVID something to be concerned about? Absolutely! But was and is it something to panic over. No.
The COVID crisis is just an example. But even before the crisis, people worried needlessly.
“Oh, my God! My girlfriend is going to leave me!”
“My boss is mad at me! I’m going to get fired!”
“My grandmother is 89 years old! Oh, no! She’s going to die soon!”
“Oh, no! We have a thunderstorm, so a tornado is likely to hit!
“I’m afraid to drive a car because I could have an accident and die!”
“My kid is not studying! He’s going to make bad grades!”
“Oh, no! China is mad at us and is likely to invade us!”
There’s nothing wrong with being concerned over something if there’s a threat. But freaking out over it as if it’s the end of the world doesn’t help matters any.
No one is saying that you should put on rose-colored glasses and pretend that everything’s peachy king because to go to the opposite extreme is just as dangerous. Not that I’m putting anyone down, but running out and buying a five-year supply of toilet paper like so many did when the pandemic first hit was a bit extreme. There’s a healthy middle we should stay in when it comes to worry. I could understand stockpiling things like food and medical supplies and maybe cleaning supplies. But toilet paper?
But, ‘you see? That’s what excessive worry does to people. It causes them to make irrational decisions.
Studies show that over half the things we incessantly worry about never end up coming true. So, again. Should we worry needlessly and excessively?
Understand that excessive worry only stops us from being able to think clearly and blocks our ability to make good choices and decisions. If we’re too worried, we’re more likely to make the wrong decisions to try and contain a perceived threat. Also, it lessens our capacity to focus on real problems.
But if we lessen our worry, we’re more likely to come up with better solutions to our problems.
And the best part is, if we train ourselves not to worry excessively, we’ll have more happiness and peace of mind.
With knowledge comes empowerment!
So true. Just because you are here, alive and kicking, today – it doesn’t mean you will be here tomorrow… 🙏❤️🙏
Absolutely! 💯 Thank you so much for your lovely comment! 💞💞💞
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I agree to it, nd that stock piling of thing was extreme even we stock piled the junks and handwashes during pandemic that was to a more extreme level, hence I could get since worrying is second nature if you try something new. Really we should calm our worries. 🙏🙏
You’re absolutely right! It’s okay to prepare for hard times. But we should be sensible about it. Thank you so much for your lovely comment! 💞💞💞
Great reminder to stop worrying and fussing about what could happen.
Thank you so much, Vanya! 💞💞💞There’s nothing wrong with preparing. However, worrying just makes things worse. 💯
Yes, I find that sometimes I also overthink things. One time I thought I lost on a business proposal because of my incompetence, but later I found out the client’s limited budget was the issue.
I know that was a relief when you found out about the budget issues, Vanya. We are our own worst critics. Many of us have a habit of thinking we’re not smart enough, not good enough, pretty enough, strong enough. You only underestimated yourself. 💖🌺🌷🦋
It also helps to ask for feedback. The comment I got was a cold, “the proposal does not meet client expectations because they want more …….” So I asked for clarification about this (…..) and realized the issue wasn’t my proposal.
Feedback definitely helps yes! And I’m sorry they were so cold to you. 😲
This makes me think of the Tame Impala song “Lost in Yesterday” — PTSD causes us to re-live things over and over we cannot un-see nor unfeel. I found their song reassuring and resonating here.
Wow! I don’t think I’ve heard that song! But I’ll definitely look it up and listen. Thank you so much, Jen! 💞💞💞
You might enjoy this song, Jen: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q3b0-i1T8Hk
It helps me move forth during rough times.
thank you!
That was good!!!Thank you.xx
You’re most welcome, Sandy! 💖🌺💐
When you have faith in a higher being, there’s no need to worry 😊.
Absolutely, Janice! 💯 And there are many who have nothing or no one to believe in. And that makes for a sad existence.
fret and just yet
Cherie, you hit this one right on the head for me. Timely reminder. Sage wisdom. Thank you so much. 🙂
You’re most welcome, Liz! And thank you for your kindness! 💖🌺🌷
I used to get called a ‘worry guts’ by my nan when she was alive. She was right, though – I was a constant worrier. It was about all the childhood and adolescent issues that seemed so huge. I had PTSD from my abuse (I still do, but not so severely, thankfully.) I still tend to worry but not as badly as I used to. Practice makes perfect, and I’m not one to give up easily.
We had the whole loo roll issue when the pandemic began too. White bread (amongst other things) was being bought up for some absurd reason too! Over here, those people were called the white bread and loo roll brigade! Crazy people.
It’s normal to worry excessively after you’ve been abused, Ellie. I’m so sorry they treated you so badly! You never deserved that! 💖🌺🌷
Oh girlfriend, you broke this bad boy down to the bone! 🤜🏼🤛🏼 I have to agree with your overall message, “Excessive worry causes people to make irrational decisions.” We are human and fear can naturally ease on into our comfort zones, but somehow fear has been glamourized in the word “phobias” and thus it feels like we are somehow normalizing this condition like an accessory piece. UGH! 😝 Thanks so much for sharing dawwwwlinkkkkk!!! 🤗💋😘💖🥰
You’re most welcome, sweetie! 💖🌺🌷Evil people and bullies profit off our worry and fear. All the more reason why I try not to give them that benefit. I do fail sometimes, but we’re all works in progress! 😊😊😊
Yes ma’am, I agree with you 💯! We keep striving to do better and be better! 🥰💖🤗🌟😘
We sure do, girlie! Love you bunches my fellow dancer and rump-shaker! 💖😍🥰🎶🎼💃💃💃
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I recently had to learn not worry too much over everything. When my blood pressure shot up reality hit me that if I don’t calm down I might be put on blood pressure medications.
That’s true that worry can negatively impact your health. I’m glad you learned that lesson and now you can look forward to a longer life. 💖🌺🦋 I had to learn that the hard way too. Wishing you much peace and happiness! 😊🤗
Thank you Cherie
You’re most welcome! 💖
Everything will work out in its own time.
Absolutely right! 💯
I realized that I’m too old to think too much about the future.
I’m not far behind you, Michael. Maybe by about ten years.
It goes faster than you think.
Ooo don’t remind me! 😫
Been thinking a lot about this recently Cherie.
Take care and thanks for sharing ❤️
You’re most welcome, Margaret! And thank you for your thoughts on this topic. They’re highly valued. 💖💖💖
Cherie, your blog is so good for me. Jam packed with info that strengthens me 😊 💕
You don’t know how much it pleases my heart to read this, Ruby! I’m so glad this helps strengthen you, sweetie! 💖🌺🌷🦋🌞
I love your post and can surely relate in more ways than one. Such a pleasure meeting you here and thanks for your support. 💞💖
You’re most welcome! 💖😍 And thank you so much for your kind words! I’m so glad it’s helping you grow! 💖🌺🌷
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Well said.. excessive thinking do block our rational thinking.
Thank you so much, Vartika! You said that perfectly! 💯👍
Yes!!!! I just blogged about something similar!!! You nailed it girlie
Thank you so much, girl! This post was originally written last year but I had some things to add to it this time around so I had to revamp it. I so appreciate your love and support and I’m honored to have met such wonderful people on WordPress. 💖💖💖
So very true- ” we train ourselves not to worry excessively, we’ll have more happiness and peace of mind” OMG! YES!! I stole an approach to worrying less over ten years ago and it has given me peace- “will it still really matter in 48 hrs?” Usually not- and beisdes the worry was just causing me to be frantic. Now I let go and let God and that sure helps.
Thank you so much, Kim! “will it still really matter in 48 hrs?” Awesome question and way to get rid of worry, sweetie! I love that idea and I’ll definitely adopt it for myself! Again, thank you! 💖🌺🌹🌞🕊️