When You Believe It, You’ll See It

I’ve always heard people make the statement, “I’ll believe it when I see it.”

The problem is that our attitudes shape our perspectives and perspectives shape what we see. Put another way, our perspectives can blind us to a lot of stuff, even to what’s right in front of our faces. Because, if you have the mindset that you’ll believe it when you see it, the chances are that you never will see it.

This is the reason many targets are bullied. It’s the reason why innocent people are convicted of crimes they didn’t commit. It’s also the reason why many bullies and criminals are promoted to high positions. Because of others’ attitudes!

We often base our judgments of others on our attitudes towards them, by what we’ve heard about them, or whether we like them. Many times, we judge others too harshly because we can’t see past our dislike or hatred of them.

We also do this with our own lives as well. If we’ve had a string of adversity throughout our lives, we usually come to expect more of the same. And sadly, we end up getting just that!

We come to see ourselves as unlucky, undesirable, unlovable, and incapable of success. As a result of our thinking, we get more and more adversity because our attitudes and perspectives about our lives will blind us to opportunities- opportunities that are, more than likely, right in front of us- opportunities that others may see and seize. Then, we’ve missed out once again and thus, the cycle begins, yet again.

Case in point, our attitudes and perspectives have ways of shaping and influencing our lives, the things that happen in our lives, and where our lives take us. They attract people and events.

This is why we must do the inner work to change our thought patterns. We must check our attitudes and work to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. The only way you will have a positive life is to have a positive attitude, then a positive perspective, which can only develop by having positive thoughts.

I know it’s hard to do when it seems that adversity is coming at you from every possible direction. Believe me, I understand because I’ve been there.

It won’t be easy, and it won’t happen overnight. But I promise you this. If you start now by catching each negative thought and replacing it with a thought that’s positive, you’ll be surprised at how much better your life will get!

“What if it doesn’t work out?” Oooooh! But “What if it does?”

It worked for me and it’ll work for you too!

With knowledge comes empowerment!

15 thoughts on “When You Believe It, You’ll See It

  1. Cherie, I love the way you transposed this idiom. I agree with you that our attitudes shape our perspectives. I agree with you on this, “What if it doesn’t work out?” Oooooh! But “What if it does?” 🤔 It’s all in our spirit to believe or not to believe. Powerful angle girlfriend. Thanks a million for sharing. 😉👏🏼🤩💞😍🦋🥰

  2. What’s your view on seeking the aid of a professional counselor for this kind of problem? Negative and self-defeating feelings can be self-reinforcing on a very deep level, so that even if a person realizes intellectually that they need to overcome and escape those feelings, it can be very difficult to deploy the mental energy to do so when the emotional negativity itself is corroding motivation. Based on my experience, getting help from someone properly trained in understanding those kinds of feelings can be the catalyst that helps break the cycle and begin the process of escape.

  3. “We must check our attitudes and work to replace negative thoughts with positive ones.”

    Cherie, you know I’m a ‘cock-eyed optimist’
    (Most-days anyway)

    “Stuck like a dope with a thing called ‘Hope’ and I can’t get it out of my heart”

    https://texantales.com/2022/03/20/sorry-kids-i-am-stupid-had-to-re-post-this-expanded-a-bit-i-miss-my-navy-seal-training-daze-happy-cockeyed-optimist-im-stuck-like-a-dope-with-a-thing-called-hope-cest-moi/

  4. You’re absolutely right, Cherie. It took me many years to realise that if I felt negative about myself and my life, that’s the way it stayed, and it perpetuated itself. Since then, I’ve learned so much (plus, your blog posts have helped, too). I’m quite happy the way I am, and since being more positive, I find that good things do happen and keep happening. I try and keep an open and positive mind about everything, especially adversity. I’ve had plenty of that in the past, as you know, but I no longer feel sorry for myself nor expect that pattern to continue. And you know what!? It works, as you say in this excellent post.

    Even now, I still get the occasional person who tells me how sorry they are that I’m disabled! It’s a bit of an insult in this day and age. I usually reply with ‘ thank you for your concern, but I’m very happy having a disability – probably more so since my accident,’ I appreciate every day of my life now, and in no way do I feel sorry for myself. Thank you for sharing your advice and wisdom on this topic, Cherie. I’m learning a lot from your posts. X 💜💐💙🌼💛🌹

    • You are an amazing lady, Ellie! And I’m so proud of you! No doubt you are making good things happen for yourself and others! 💖💐🌹🦋😍🥰😍🥰

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