How to Get Solid Proof of Bullying and 2 Laws You Must Be Aware of

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Though we know bullying exists, it’s one of the hardest things to prove. I’ve preached about documentation and the 5W Rule (What, Who, When, Where, and Why) in past posts. It’s still THE best way to get your evidence.

However, there are other ways of getting evidence that I haven’t mentioned- proof that, when coupled with documentation, can give you a solid case against your bullies and the facility that allows the bullying to go on. And, the more evidence you have, the better.

You can also use recording devices, hidden body cameras, and spy cameras. Unfortunately, this is tricky depending on what state or jurisdiction you live in. Some states and jurisdictions have a Two-Party Consent Rule, and others have a One Party Consent Rule.

Two-Party Consent Rule – is when two parties must know about the recording and consent to it- those two parties are you and the person or persons you’re recording.

One-Party Consent Rule – is when only one party has to know about the recording- that party being YOU.

So, in a One-Party state, you can wear a hidden camera or recording device or have one on you, make all the recordings you want, secretly, and the evidence would be admissible in court. You could still make a secret recording in a Two-Party state, but it would be best if no one catches you with it, and it wouldn’t be admissible in court. You could still keep it for your records.

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Yes. I feel the frustration of those who live in a Two-Party state, and I agree with you; it’s a bogus law. Nevertheless, it’s still the law. As I said earlier, you could always record evidence of the bullying, but you’d be doing it at your own risk, and there might be legal consequences if someone catches you with it at school or work.

You could record it, and if nobody catches you, you could take it home and plaster it all over social media. However, this isn’t advisable either because bullies watch their target’s social media pages like hawks. If you go this route, it’s best to join a few private anti-bullying groups and only share the video with them. Only then will your bullies not be able to see what you’re doing.

There are loopholes in any law, but the trick is to find them. And, if you don’t know whether you live in a one-party or two-party area, look up the laws in your state or jurisdiction.

Those of you who may be thinking of gathering video and audio evidence of bullying know that I’m with you, and I support you. Gather your evidence any way you can. Document the bullying and secretly record it with a body cam. These two sources of evidence together can be powerful! If you’re being bullied at work, my advice would be to hide a spy cam in your office because workplace bullies will snoop through your office, desk, and computer after you leave for the day.

Again, document incidences of bullying and record them if possible. You do these things, and you’ll have an open and shut case should you take legal action against your bullies and their enablers. There are plenty of discreet products available to help you gather your evidence.

With knowledge comes empowerment!

“Back Off Buzz: Ollie Outsmarts the Bully” (by Thomas Bogle)- A Book that I’m Happy to Give My Grandkids

If you have small children or grandchildren who need to know about bullying,  this is the book for them.

When I consider a children’s book for any child in my family, I always like to read it first. This book did not disappoint! It is well-written and is clear for any child aged 2-10 to understand.

I won’t give away any details because I don’t want to spoil the story but will only give a very basic review. The book is about a group of friends in the animal kingdom who are being bullied by a much larger animal, Buzz the buzzard. The group of friends consist of Ollie the wise old owl, a chipmunk, Chip, and two bluebirds, Bluey and Birdie. To protect his friends, Ollie outsmarts Buzz, proving that brains will always triumph over physical size and strength.

Also, the book is well-illustrated with pictures that match the words perfectly. Ingrid Orlando Zon does a wonderful job illustrating the book.

When this book is released by Amazon on Feb. 1, 2022, I will definitely order a few more for my 3 year-old niece and a few other children I know.