Sadly, it seems that the more fake a person is, the more they’re adored by others, and the more real a person is, the more they’re hated by others. The reason for this is because “truth” scares people. Truth is uncomfortable, even painful.
As the old quote goes, “It’s much easier to fool people than to convince them that they’ve been fooled.”
Bullies have a way of using seductive charm and drawing others to them. They have a knack for making people like, even love them. They are so successful at making connections with people. They agree with everyone on anything, tell others what they want to hear. They say all the right things at the right times. They’re the best actors in the business and sometimes it’s hard to see the snake behind the charm.
This is how workplace bullies get promoted in the workplace. It’s how school bullies become the teacher’s pets and the golden boys and girls of the school. It’s how bullies are liked and yes, even loved by unsuspecting others.
It’s frustrating, isn’t it? When you know a person is fake, yet others think they’re the best thing since sliced bread? The person is evil, manipulative, and lies without a conscience, yet nobody knows it but you. Why? Because you’re the only one who see that side of them.
You know the real person behind the façade of charisma, smiles, and waves. Plain as day, you watch them take pleasure in hurting others and ruining lives. At the same time, everyone else seemingly gets sucked in by their fakery and admires them.
For example, A high school bully boy beats up a smaller kid on the ballfield and all the girls watching from the bleachers are instantly turned on by it. Or they grope a poor girl in the hallways who clearly does not want them touching her and the female groupies and admirers who hang with them only laugh and signal approval. After all, the girl being groped is “a slut who was asking for it.” Right?
You can almost see what they’re thinking as you watch their eyes and their body language.
“Wow! What a man!”
Take the workplace bully, for instance. She seems so in control, so smart, and so attractive when she’s berating another employee for a minor mistake or when she’s attacking another, more talented women.
These are the type of people who are blind to their own selfishness. They tell lie after lie and ruin life after life.
They lack consideration for others and aren’t responsible for their own screw-ups, but you can be sure that they have no qualms about pointing out the mistakes and imperfections of others. Worse even, they have no problem deflecting their issues onto someone else.
What’s even more baffling is that, you’d think that once this creep dumps on enough people, others would begin to see through the smokescreens. But!
Au contraire! Some of them just keep going back after being dumped on only to have the bully rub it in. It’s enough to make you sick.
You may try to warn others about the real person behind the façade, or you may defend yourself when they attack you but you’re shocked when others take their word and their side over yours.
You hear people talk- saying what a fine, upstanding person the bully is and it’s clear they don’t know the person you and only few others know. And it’s hard to bite your tongue when you hear it.
The bully can be so horribly evil that if he stood side by side with the devil himself, you’d have a hard time distinguishing between the two. This person puts on the pathetic but convincing act of being bullied when they’re the ones doing the bullying.
It’s amazing how easily the people around you are fooled!
But realize that not only the bully, but the weak and gullible followers who enable the bully, need professional help.
Understand that these bullies are toxic souls and wastes of space. They’re the people who cannot keep a relationship- they’re the ones who are always in and out of relationships, whether friendships or romances. Eventually, these bullies get a little too prideful, a little to bold…then they get stupid!
They screw up somehow, the mask falls off, and finally! People see their true colors!
I’ve seen this happen and I want lie to you. It gave me a since of justice and I was ecstatic when I watched them fall.