Euphemism- word, phrase or statement that softens a harsher meaning.
Seasoned bullies are well-known for euphemizing their words so that they don’t look bad to others. Anytime bullies soften their insults, they appear concerned for the target’s well-being, or they appear sympathetic. But, don’t be misled. In reality, they’re anything but!
Also, in “softly” putting you down, they are more like to get confirmation for their interlocutors (the other people taking part in the discussion) to justify their atrocious behavior. And when they get the confirmation they seek, they get with it relief and the green light to continue talking.
Here are the most common softened statements.
“I hope she gets the help she needs.”
“The poor guy, it’s sad that people treat him so bad.”
“I know I shouldn’t say this, but…”
“Bless her heart, she’s such a miserable and unhappy person.”
“I sincerely hope she can go someplace where she can be happy.”
I want you to understand that when your bullies make these statements, they’re not the least bit sympathetic nor concerned about your well-being. They’re only concerned with how they look and sound to everyone else and with putting on a good front to cover their true feelings.
The more you know.