When a person is a target of bullies, it’s too easy for that person to stop caring- about everything, including his appearance.
The reason for this is that when someone gets bullied for so long- once enough people have told them so many times over that they are nothing, that they aren’t good enough, that they have no value as a human being, and that they’re a waste of time, space and breathable air, they begin to believe it subconsciously.
They won’t even know it’s happening until it’s too late, and the contrary belief of themselves has already taken a foothold on their psyche. And when they believe something of themselves, whether it be a complete lie or truth, they will unwittingly live up to it.
Understand that this change in a target happens ever so slowly. And before the person realizes it, they begin to neglect themselves. They neglect their appearance, their housework, even their health!
1. Targets will often isolate themselves and become shut-ins.
2. They fail to make themselves presentable.
3. They stop exercising and forego physical check-ups.
4. They withdraw from people and social gatherings.
5. They don’t get adequate sleep and nutrition.
6. Some overeat for comfort and gain weight.
7. Some stop eating and lose too much weight.
8. Some even begin using alcohol and drugs.
In short, they let themselves go!
These are the reasons why, if you’re a target of bullying, it’s even more important that you take care of yourself.
When I was a target of bullying, I stopped believing in myself too, for a while, only I didn’t neglect my appearance. Instead, I got mad. Damn mad! And in my anger, I grew more determined to take care of myself. The more I was bullied, the better (and more flashy) I dressed. I also exercised to keep myself fit.
It was my way of thumbing my nose at the bullies- a poke in the eye to them, or a proverbial middle finger.
I became as a peacock fanning out her tail to show her beautiful colors. It was also a means for me to maintain what control I did have, which was control over my body and appearance. Also, I wanted to keep my self-esteem from completely bottoming out.
It was only one of the ways I fought like hell to hang on to my dignity and to maintain what I could of myself. And today, I believe it saved me in so many ways.
I may not have had control over how others viewed me. No one has that kind of control.
I may not have had control over how others treated me.
I may not have had control over my reputation.
And I may not have had control over my physical well being as I got the snot beat out of me a few times.
But, what I did have was control over my hygiene and how I looked!
That was the one thing those creeps couldn’t have control of!
However, I knew so many other bullied people who give up on themselves, and it breaks my heart for them!
So, please! Please, don’t give up. Hang on to what power you do have with everything in you! You’ll thank yourself for it later. I promise!