I’ve mentioned before that bullies seem to have a taste for the best people when they select their targets. They go for the people with hearts of gold, people who are intelligent, who are cooperative with authority, and those who have an unwavering moral compass and a sense of fair play and justice.
There are reasons bullies target these outstanding people:
1. Bullies experience anyone else’s goodness as their inferiority.
2. In these targets, they see their imperfections and flaws reflected back at them.
3. Bullies know that they’re most likely to be rejected by these people.
4. Bullies know if they tried to manipulate these people, they wouldn’t get very far.
5. Bullies instinctively know that these people are smart and would likely see through their manipulations, mind games, and facades.
Realize that the best people know themselves. And to know yourself is to trust yourself and know lies and abuse when you see them. This is why people who are “the best” are a huge threat to bullies and abusers.
Reading these, give me a much greater understanding of what was back then, but helps me so that should I find myself in conversation with someone facing it now, I have insight-should they wish to hear. Thank you.
It’s my pleasure, Rebecca! Thank you for your kind words. 🙂
“In these targets, they see their imperfections and flaws reflected back at them.” I think this is one of the key points.
Absolutely! Thank you so much for your lovely comment. 🙂 <3
Great post! I think of work place bullies. Interestingly, or sadly, many institutions do not address bullying behaviors. It has to be couched in “discrimination “ or its not addressed. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much! This means a lot! And you’re so right about the couching in discrimination. It’s sad.
You had me at number 1! Greeeat Post
Thank you so much, Bella! ❤❤❤
True points
I’ve never been bullied but I can understand the trauma which comes with bullying
Recently in my country we buried a student who committed suicide because she was bullied by her peers, calling her names and how ugly she looks. . . I’m still in pain about this and I cannot fathom how she felt from such traumatic experience.
There truly must be a way to deal with bullying
I’m so sorry for your loss. I believe that if bullies cause someone to take their own life, they should be charged with manslaughter. But it’s so hard to prove.
This is really amazing. Going deep within the mindset of people so that we know better ways of dealing with them.
Thank you so much! This means a lot. ❤