If you are a target of bullying, never share anything with anyone- not even your best friend. Because, in a situation like this, you cannot afford to trust anyone. I don’t care how close you and your friends seem to be. It’s still not a smart move because you never know when your bullies will succeed in turning your friends against you, and those friends become willing participants in bullying you.
So, never divulge any info that’s private or personal- anything you wouldn’t want to be known.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YHimia_Fxzs
Examples of things better kept private are as follows (Some of these are no-brainers):
1. Your sex life, or lack of.
2. A drug addict in your family.
3. Any medical conditions or diseases.
4. Any mental illnesses.
5. Any legal troubles- even as minor as traffic tickets.
6. Family issues- divorce, child custody, births, deaths, etc.
7. Your past (if you’re old enough to have one).
8. Past abuse you may have suffered.
9. Your personal info.
10. Email and passwords to social media accounts.
11. Names of your family members.
12. Never brag about your daughter’s beauty pageant or your son’s perfect grades.
13. Your views about the recent scandal at school or work.
14. Your hobbies and interests.
15. The TV show you watched last night, especially if it’s a slasher show or filled with hot-buttered sex.
16. Never talk about politics! Ever! That’s a no-no subject!
Bullies are already looking for dirty laundry. So, why air yours? When you’re a target of bullying, the less they know about you and your life, the better.
Very much agree. I guess my days as a private investigator taught me this. If no one knows, it can’t be used against you.
Absolutely, Jack! And if nothing can be used against you, bullies will be forced to invent something about you. So, you’re forcing them to have to lie next.
Explicit clear instructions are so helpful for victims of bullying especially when they’re confused disoriented, Clear do & don’t is a lifebuoy. Thank you Cherie 🙏
You’re very welcome. <3
Not only be careful about what you share about yourself, minions of bullies will try to goad information about other out of you so they can report it back to the bullies.
Absolutely!
You are so correct! I feel why I was bullied in high school because I was an enigma to all of them. They thought I was some rich kid because I always had money. What they didn’t know was I had five part time jobs.
Wow! Jealousy has a way of bringing out the monster in them doesn’t it, Dwain?
Yes, I guess it did! Never thought about it until now. Thanks Cherie!
My pleasure, Dwain.
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Thank you so much, Jim. 🙂
YW!
This is a clear list and I agree with you.
Thank you so much. 🙂
I agree with you absolutely.
Thank you, Marie. 🙂
And can I add sometimes adults have the same issues? Watch who you share with.
Absolutely they do, the same applies at work and in the neighborhood too. 🙂💯
Oh definitely! Just so sad how trust always has to be questioned.
I totally agree. It seems that, especially today, most human beings seem to look for ways to knock each other down when we should be building each other up. It’s sad.
Yes exactly. That’s why sometimes this social distancing is not a bad thing. I am a very social person but given my recent separation and add the pandemic, I’ve become more with myself, and sadly not hard to do with how people love to judge. You sadly find out who your friends and family are. And who to trust. Why are we like this?
Absolutely. You find out who’s for real and who’s fake. And the reason people are like that is because we live in a fallen world and there are many people just don’t care about anything or anyone but themselves.
Yes, I do agree. This post was so enlightening. I’m happy you shared it and your inspiring words 😊
It’s my pleasure. Thank you for your kind words. <3
You’re welcome enjoy your day😊
<3 :)
Social Media, which I personally love, is where people make this mistake a lot. Some people literally share everything in their life (someone they dislike, all about a break up, etc). Social media is a tool of communication but don’t put your whole life out there. I actually sent you an email through your author site about an idea I have. I would like to see everyone in an effort to post something positive to come up with a Top 20 list of the people (real people they know) they enjoy following and why and say complimentary things about them and see if it can start trending on social media. List the person and tag them. I think it could make a difference.
Thank you so much! That sounds like a great idea. I’ll go read the email! I’m honored that you considered me for the project. 😊❤
Well you are such a positive person and I know through your advocacy you know a lot of people and I thought how good would it be for people to see their name pop up in a positive post and encourage them to do the same. It is easy to think the world is against you sometimes
Thank you so much for your kindness. This means a lot and I’m humbled. And yes, it’s too easy to think that, especially nowadays.
Did you get my email? I can resend if I need to
Oops! I’ll go look now and get back with you. One moment.
I couldn’t find it in my inbox. My email is CherieWhite69@gmail.com. resend it and I’ll read it.
I just resent. Thanks so much for your help!
You’re most welcome. 😊
Great! I just found your email and replied. Gotta jump off so I can cook and have dinner ready for the hubby when he gets home. It was great talking to you, Tina! Bless you, sweetie! ❤