The Value of a Wedding Band

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Too many women these days don’t value themselves like they should, especially women who have suffered past bullying and abuse. And many predatory men will take advantage. Take it from someone who made that mistake when she was young and naive. Shacking up isn’t what it’s cracked up to be.

A woman who prefers marriage over living together knows her value and isn’t afraid of making it clear what she wants out of life. She is confident and a man who is worth her time will respect her and be willing to commit his life to her and make her his wife.

In no way am I telling people how to live. If you’d rather live together than to be married, then that’s your business and I won’t judge you for it. And there are couples who live together and eventually marry but that’s a rare occurrence these days.

Look at the underliers here and know that you’re worthy of so much more.

If a man wants you to live with him but doesn’t want to marry, how much does he actually think of you? Really think about it.

He expects you to cook, clean, and go to bed with him every night, and yet, he doesn’t think enough of you to make it official? Remember that you teach people how to treat you by what you accept. Seriously, don’t you think you deserve better?

Don’t be like the woman in the video!

Reasons why marriage is so much better than shacking up:

1. There’s much more security.

Marriage is more legally binding than living together ever will be. Understand that people who marry make much more of a commitment to their partners than those who only live together.

2. There are higher levels of trust between partners.

The average couple who is married trusts each other more than the average couple who lives together outside marriage.

I know that many will counter me with statistics of a high divorce rate. However, this should not deter you from getting married if that’s what you want.

When my husband and I were dating and the subject came up, I made it absolutely clear that the only man I would even consider living with would be the man I married. I knew what I wanted, and I didn’t fear speaking up about it. And, you know what? Mike loved and respected me for it. He thought a lot more of me, and eventually, he asked me to marry him. And the real kicker is that the first few times he asked, I said no because I wasn’t ready yet.

But he never gave up and eventually, I said yes.

Know your value. You are not free neither are you cheap.

There’s an old saying that was popular when I was growing up and it pertained to the attitudes of those who didn’t want the responsibility of marriage but wanted the perks of it:

“Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?”

Nothing is free. There’s always a price in some way, shape, or form.

If I perform the duties of a wife, then I’m damn sure going to have the title. If I’m going to wash some guy’s dirty underwear, clip his toenails, or wash his funky feet when he’s sick and cannot do it himself, you can believe I’m going to do it with a marriage certificate and a wedding band.

When two people are truly in love, the chances are high that they will marry.

Realize that you have value. If you want marriage and your boyfriend doesn’t want to step up to the plate after you’re together for a few years, then let him go. It won’t be easy, but don’t be afraid to walk away if your guy isn’t emotionally mature enough for marriage. Then you can make room for a man who deserves you. Trust me when I say that you deserve to be a wife, not a forever girlfriend.

Love yourself enough to walk away from a man of low quality. Value yourself enough to wait for a high-quality man who deserves you and who wants your hand in marriage. You’re worth it, don’t you think?

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Side Chick Bullies- What They Don’t Realize

Through the years, I’ve witnessed the suffering of many wives whose husbands left them for a “side chick.” I’ve also overheard these mistresses brag about wrecking marriages and breaking up a family.

Many of these lowlife women will add insult to injury by harassing the wife and attacking her ability to keep her husband satisfied. They’ll unashamedly and loudly boast that men cheat on their wives and girlfriends with girls like them. Yes, many of these women will continue to be catty and bully the wife. But! There’s a lot that these home-wrecking little she-bullies don’t think about.

And if you’re one of these bullied wives or girlfriends, here are a few things I want you to realize. And you just might feel some justice:

1.With these evil women, it’s not about love, it’s really about power.

Many of these women will get their thrills simply from the fact they destroyed someone else’s happy home. Understand that it isn’t about any love they have for the man, it’s about the power rush they get from taking him. Realize that this is, more than likely, the only power they have.

2. If he’ll cheat on his wife, he’ll cheat on the mistress eventually.

Yep! My grandmother told me when I was a teen, when a neighbor down the street cheated on his wife and it was discovered. She said, “If a man will cheat on his wife or girlfriend, he’ll cheat on you too later on.” I never forgot that little nugget of truth. Sadly, the girls who brag about wrecking other people’s marriages never think about this.

3. They will never be able to trust the man.

Even if they succeed in getting the man to marry them, these women will never be able to trust them. This goes back to number two. He cheated on his wife. So, who’s to say he won’t cheat on her too?

In the back of her mind, the mistress and now, new wife, already knows this. This is why she’ll always be suspicious of other women. She’ll be constantly checking his phone, his social media. She’ll forever be feeling paranoid that another woman just might do the same to her that she did to the first wife.

And, you know what? It’s exactly what happens. He usually does end up cheating on her too!

4. By dating a married man, they end up playing second fiddle.

Ouch! ‘Doesn’t feel too good, does it? But that’s the reality. When a woman dates someone else’s husband, she picks up his wife’s sloppy seconds. In that, she sets herself up to be last choice in a man’s life. She settles from the crumbs under the table rather than the full meal at the table. Pathetic, isn’t it?

5. The cheating husband won’t leave his wife.

The mistress ends up wasting many years courting a man who doesn’t value her. Instead of finding a man of her own, who would love her, she settles for a man who uses her like a rag. In many cases, the cheating husbands often discard the mistresses to go back to their wives. And the mistress ends up not only devastated, but also looking and feeling like a total fool, which is exactly what she deserves.

6. When a woman dates someone else’s husband, it really means that she doesn’t think she can ever find one of her own.

It means that she’s jealous of the marriage and of the wife. In that, she makes herself inferior to the wife regardless of whether she succeeded in destroying the marriage. Here’s what you should ask yourself. Are these women even on the wife’s level? Trust me when I say that the wife is on a much higher level than the mistress even will be.

But wait! Here’s the real kicker: Most females wouldn’t even think about wearing under woman’s underwear but if a girl sleeps with another woman’s husband or boyfriend, she might as well be. Ewww!

There’s no dignity in being a side chick. If you’re a wife who’s been left and is now being bullied by your husband’s side-chick or new girlfriend, realize that the other woman may think she’s won, but she’s only reduced herself to the lowest common denominator. She has cheapened herself. She’s eating your leftovers. And she’s either settling for last place, or for a man she can never trust. It sure sucks to be her, doesn’t it?

With knowledge comes power.