Bullies Want You Dependent, Submissive…and Stupid!

Remember that bullies hate a person who’s smart because one who’s intelligent can see through their smoke screens. They also hate anyone who’s independent because they’re least likely to be controlled and subdued. And most independent people are smart because they know how to improvise and need no one to hold their hand.

As we see in so many examples today in government and media, bullies would rather have you dependent, submissive, and stupid because a stupid person is a gullible person who will believe anything another person tells them even if it means it leads them to the slaughter.

Stupid people are the easiest to take power from and control because they never think for themselves, and they never think critically. They take everything at face value and fall for anything.

A stupid person either hasn’t had enough life lessons to learn, or they’ve been coddled and sheltered- they weren’t allowed to fall on their ass and made to pick themselves back up.

And thus, the stupid person is also dependent. He/she is dependent because they never learned how to fend for themselves. Who can learn anything when, people are constantly bailing them out?

The stupid are also submissive because they’ll do anything people, especially those who have a little influence (politicians, media, celebrities, sports figures…anyone with authority and clout) tell them just to stay in their good graces and the good graces of society and the public.

Understand that knowledge truly is power. Having the knowledge of evil and the motives and intentions behind it is the only way you’ll be able to protect yourself from it. For, it you don’t know evil is happening, you’ll never be able to defend yourself against it. Therefore, you will be blindsided and thrown off balance when evil finally strikes!

And then you will be defenseless!

And the same will be if you’re willfully blind and ignorant. Though ignorance may be bliss, it may be more comfortable and feel better, it won’t help you when evil strikes and reality is staring you square in the face. You’ll be just as defenseless!

You’re never too old to learn. And the process of attaining growth and wisdom is never comfortable. In fact, it can be downright painful because it requires that you unlearn some of the falsehoods that have been drummed into your head for so long.

It also requires that you admit that you were duped- that you fell for all the lies and that you were wrong. And, yes, it also demands that you admit that you are, or have been…wait for it…stupid! Gasp! Ouch!

It’s what I had to do, and it wasn’t fun, I can tell you!

They don’t call it “growing pains” for nothing.

But once you allow yourself to go through this process- to admit some hard truths about yourself and to take the pain, you will come out on the other side of it a much better version of yourself. You will be wise, and it will be as if you’ve been given a new set of eyes- ones that see so much clearer and can pick out the tiniest detail. And the devil is always in the details.

Ignorance is bliss, but only for so long. Eventually, you either wise up and act to save yourself, or you suffer the shock of realizing you were duped all along the moment you face the very real prospect of being destroyed by the very people who fooled you.

The more you know…

Bullies, Abusers, and Oppressive Governments – Why They Want You Dependent

Deep down, many targets are brainwashed into thinking that they must depend on their bullies for something. It’s true. I know this leaves you scratching your head. You may ask,

“Depend on bullies? For what?”

Here’s your answer:

For approval, acceptance, and to have the ability to make friends.


Yes. Bullies want targets to believe they must depend on them to have those things. And it’s how they keep targets essentially begging for it- by dangling carrots of the possibility of winning approval to keep targets under their oppressive thumb and doing what bullies want them to do.

Domestic/Spousal Abusers

Think about it. Domestic abusers do basically the same to their abused partners- keep them dependent to maintain control and domination of them. Only domestic abusers keep their victims dependent on financial resources by controlling the purse strings and shutting down opportunities for the partner to make their own money.

Another control tactic of the spousal abuser is cutting the partner off from their family and friends- people outside the relationship who may help the partner, see the abuser for what they are, advise the abused partner to leave the relationship, and, therefore, threaten the abuser’s power.

Abuse is abuse whether it comes in the form of bullying in school or the workplace, or domestic abuse and psychological manipulation in the home.

Oh! But wait!

Oppressive Governments

Socialist and Communist governments also do the same to their people. They manipulate events and media narratives, and even deliberately crash their countries’ economies to force their people to become dependent on them. They even set up terrorist regimes to beat any dissenters into submission and burn their homes and businesses. And this is nothing new. These tactics have been done down through history!

Though all this, these governments are able to wrest control of their people’s behavior, thoughts, and very lives.

Why? Because, if you can keep someone dependent on you, you can make rules for them to follow, tell them what to do, and have complete domination over their lives. You can force them to put up with the most unspeakable and evil of abuses and ensure their silence by keeping them in fear of withdrawing whatever it is they depend on you for- whether it be approval, acceptance, friendship, love, money, a good living, or even food and medicine to keep you alive.

You can have complete control over every aspect of a person’s life if you can keep them dependent on you for their very safety and survival.

Understand that when control freaks use these methods of control, they strip you of your freedom and autonomy. They keep you too afraid to be your own person, to exercise your human rights. They take away your ability to speak freely, to be creative with your life, and to flourish. They also keep you too afraid to stand up to them, call them out on their abuse, and asserting your God-given right not to be controlled and abused.

The controlling person does this by keeping you under the threat that they will retaliate and unleash even worse pain on you if you don’t obey or you step out of line.

The problem with this is that bullies, abusers, and oppressive governments only get drunk on their own power and are never satisfied. They must always up the ante and take more, more, and more control. Also, abusers tend to be sadistic monsters who live to see others go through pain and suffering, and no amount of suffering is enough for them. They have an insatiable blood-lust, and need to witness the pain of others, especially their targets.

You must realize that bullies, domestic abusers and oppressive governments and regimes have all the same in common- they love to control people and destroy their targets. And how they do it is to make them feel obligated and keep them dependent on them for social, financial, economic, or physical survival!

In their minds, you’re only here for their convenience, their purpose, their agenda, and their pleasure. Never your own.

In summary, always remember that bullies always rely on fear and dependency in others! Always- whether they bully in school, the workplace, the home, or government and politics. And the tactics, although done on different levels, are both universal and timeless.

We may not know it or may have been convinced otherwise, but we have more power over our lives than we know. It’s up to us whether bullies take away that power.

With knowledge comes empowerment!