Bullies Hate Differences of Any Kind. What is Hate Transfer?

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You’ve heard of addiction-transfer- when an addict replaces one addiction with another (for example, the addiction to food is replaced with an addiction to alcohol). But what about hate-transfer?

Here’s an explanation. I’ll use my school bullies as examples.

Many of my bullies in high school were stone-cold racists. However, they couldn’t express that hate to minorities because even during the ’80s and early ’90s, open racism was taboo. So, they simply replaced that hatred with that of the mentally ill and disabled, the indigent and out-of-town people.

I know they were racists because, on many occasions, they bullied me because having been a military brat and been around people of all races and creeds, I had no qualms with associating with people of all races. I accepted everyone because I’ve always believed we are all one race- the human race!

However, in Oakley, Tennessee, people frowned on this and not only people of my race but others as well.

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I also overheard many private conversations among girls in the bathrooms. They’d make disgusting racial slurs and put down other races among themselves within the privacy and secrecy of their group, then in public, smile and give a friendly pat on the back to the very people they put down earlier. Sheesh! They would act like they were their best friends.

But wait! There’s more!

However, they were openly hateful to the kids in the Special Ed classes, who they referred to as “the retarded kids.” They also publicly bullied kids who were dirt poor and kids who weren’t originally from Oakley. And if you were gay back then, you never let it be known at Oakley High School.

You see, people such as these have to have someone to bully. If they can’t bully other races, they will bully the poor and destitute. If they cannot bully transexuals, they will bully the mentally disabled.

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But wait! There’s more!

However, they were openly hateful to the kids in the Special Ed classes, who they referred to as “the retarded kids.” They also publicly bullied kids who were dirt poor and kids who weren’t originally from Oakley. And if you were gay back then, you never let it be known at Oakley High School.

You see, people such as these have to have someone to bully. If they can’t bully other races, they will bully the poor and destitute. If they cannot bully transexuals, they will bully the mentally disabled.

That is what hate-transfer is.

It’s having a hatred of anyone different from you but staying in the “safe zone” by only discriminating against those who aren’t as “protected.”

Prejudice against anyone should be illegal, and it is. However, bias against the poor or mentally disabled isn’t near as evident as bias against someone from a different race because anyone from any ethnicity can be poor or mentally incapacitated.

And skin color can be seen with the eyes. Poverty and mental disability are sometimes invisible to the eyes. You can be poor or have a mental disability. People can even know or suspect you may be poor or mentally disabled. But you don’t necessarily have to look that way.

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Sadly, to have legal protections, your uniqueness to the majority must be seen with the eyes, and even then, it’s no guarantee you’ll have those protections.

Understand that most seasoned bullies hate anyone different from them. But they only harass the groups who have less legal protections and are “safest” and more socially acceptable to bully!

The more you know.

6 thoughts on “Bullies Hate Differences of Any Kind. What is Hate Transfer?

  1. This is all so true, with bullies, there must always be an ‘enemy.’ In the 1980s, it was people who dressed different because the established excuse was: “If you don’t want people harassing you, then dress normal.” As an American living in the UK, I have come across lefties who will call you racist if you make the slightest, no-offense intended joke, where you have to really twist it to infer racism, against other nationalities but will openly say the most derogatory things about Americans and will applaud others who do. I was once called ignorant for pointing this out.

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  4. Loved the article! If I may, bullying at school happens on both sides of the aisle. Some teachers, administrators, office staff form opinions of the students and interact with them on that level whether they deserve it or not. I have, and am currently, working in a school situation. While I am mostly on the administration wing, it makes me heavy hearted to know that those who put targets on others back for whatever reason are influencing the parents kids. My back ground as a kid stems from being very shy and sheltered. Meaning that I was always standing on the sidelines observing others interact at school. I can tell you without a doubt that the side effect of this has served me well. Kids pick up on the favoritism of other kids at school. They feel when they are not liked by the administration. It directly impacts them (sometimes even turning students into bullies) and it makes me want to stomp a mud hole in those that are oblivious to what they are doing.

    Thank you for letting me vent. 😊 LOVED your article. There is a lot of take away in it!

    • That they do. You hit the nail on the head with this.. It’s often the case anytime teachers and school officials bully certain students. It sets a dangerous precedent because the other students (and their parents) get the message that it’s okay to bully those kids too.

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