People Don’t Care How Much You Know. They Only Want to Know How Much You Care.

“They don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” – Lou Holz

I’ve never read a truer quote than this. It touches me in ways I cannot explain because I do care about people and always have. Only in the early days, I didn’t know how to show it or maybe I was afraid to show it because it made me vulnerable. After all, I was suffering from a torrent of bullying and I was afraid that if I showed vulnerabilities, people would eat me alive.

This was wrong think.

I now realize that before you can help others, you must not only care about them, but let them know that you care. Now I could spout off about how much I’ve learned about bullying and the dark part of human nature, but all that knowledge is worth nothing if I don’t care about my fellow man.

And anyone who shares their knowledge and gives advice without caring for people are only spreading their wisdom for purposes of vanity and that’s not good.

You must care about people, especially those you’re trying to help, or your cause will fall flat. Knowledge without love and caring is dead.

With knowledge comes empowerment!

113 thoughts on “People Don’t Care How Much You Know. They Only Want to Know How Much You Care.

  1. Not everyone may understand German, Russian, French, Mandarin, English, Greek, or Swahili. But when Love speaks, we all ‘get it.’

    Genuine LOVE is a universal language, especially when it is spoken from a caring heart.

    Great post!

  2. “Remember when you’re out there, trying to heal the sick, that you must always first forgive them”…Bob Dylan…(I think about this song lyric all the time). Happy Heart Day, follow your beautiful heart 💝💝 Jim

  3. Your thoughts are as lovely and wonderful as you are. It’s such a pleasure to read your blogs. Keep smiling and rocking always. 😊😊

  4. Cherie, what an endearing message for today. I love it girlfriend. It reminds me of Maya Angelou’s quote, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

    You are so spot on as always girlfriend!!! 🎯❤💯

  5. I became a teacher because I care deeply! I want children to find their best lives and live them to the fullest- securing their joys and gifts so that they can help better humanity. So this recent attach on me by my bullyboss really breaks my heart- I thought after growing up in a cruelly abusive and unsupportive home that once I got out in the real world, life would be better- and for the most part it is! Sadly I the abuse I am facing in my beloved career is beyond disappointing! It is heartbreaking how in education this kind of bad behaviour prevails behind classroom doors. Yet I maintain a bully free zone for my students- it is an entirely different matter when it comes to my colleagues. It is not always a caring, safe and wwelcoming place for us. My bullyboss went after 3 other colleagues before me- I was present for those other colleagues-who now have left our school but I seem to be standing alone now- I actually feel rather ostracized with zero contact from any of my remaining colleagues- two of whom I mentor. BUT it is this group gives that me hope! I need to seek help from my union- but I am not quite there. Your blogs build up my insights on the topic and my courage plus it restores my belief that there are still loads of good people in this community as well as still out there around the planet. Thank you!

    • You’re so welcome, Kim! When you’re bullied and mobbed at work, it can shatter your image of humanity and can strip you of your humanity. Please don’t allow them to do that to you. If you have to leave and move to a better school, please do. Your mental health is more important than anything right now! <3

      • This site and the quotes shared by yourself and the community do help restore my belief in humanity. Amen! I know I must leave- the problem that resurfaces again is those references. I am still trying to figure out how to juggle that part of the equation and I pray for insight to a clever solutuon. Thx!

          • That means so much to me right now. Thank you! Tomorrow I will reach out to the union. I am already speculating what they will say- but not 100% Here’s to them not disappointing me. Fingers, knees and eyes crossed that they are respectful!

  6. This is a great reminder especially for some who also suffered from bullying, I can relate, this gives me more understanding about how others feel too and not just think about my own vulnerability, thanks so much 🙏💖💕

  7. I first came across this quote in Rick Warren’s Purpose Driven Life. It said, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.I have it at my desk.

  8. Thank God for you Cherie White.. honestly this reduces me to tears.. to think of all those who suffer this in silence and do not have one single person to advocate for them is just so very tough… you are working to change that and its one of the most important things of all.. <3

    • Ain’t that the bloody truth! The one I know of late follows the classic case of the Peter Principle which looks like this thanks to LinkedIn’s Nicolas Allen: a good worker is promoted to a higher position based on their competence in their current job. If they do well in the new position, then they are promoted again. This continues until they are in a position which they can’t perform with competence, and there they stay- no longer able to be promoted due to their incompetence.” My former bully boss was quite a showman but a total dud! He barely could complete required tasks at the last level- hopefully they will surround him with capables who will have him come out smelling of a rose. Otherwise, as Allen completes his post: “The Peter Principle is not the fault of the person being promoted, that’s in the hands of the management promoting them.’ I don’t think our HR does that well either. And our exit rate proves that! Thank you for helping me clarify my thinking even further!

      • You’re most welcome, Kim. And I agree. And the reason why the wrong people get promoted is because they take credit for others ideas and hard work. Also, many types of management also operates on nepotism and favoritism and bullies are experts at charming members of management and getting them to like them.

        • You are so right! Take credit- OMG, that former boss is a thought thief! But I also know precisely how that bullyboss feels about our leader and let me just say it ain’t pretty. Indeed she has surrounded herself with vipers – but they suck up sickingly very well -( isn’t it obvious?) securing their position in her back pocket!

  9. Interesting article. I would say I care too much. Too too much about everyone even strangers and that causes me to suffer alot. As I take their pain as my own and I suffer with them, I am always there for people when they need me but I do end up suffering alot in the process.

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