Stop Worrying About the Future and Enjoy the Here and Now

There’s a reason why some people make it a point to never to worry until it’s time to worry. What’s going to happen will happen, and they refuse to worry about things that haven’t occurred yet- and may never come to pass.

Too many people worry needlessly, which is why we had the stock market crash and the numerous closing and shortages of necessities last year, when COVID first hit. Was and is COVID something to be concerned about? Absolutely! But was and is it something to panic over. No.

The COVID crisis is just an example. But even before the crisis, people worried needlessly.

“Oh, my God! My girlfriend is going to leave me!”

“My boss is mad at me! I’m going to get fired!”

“My grandmother is 89 years old! Oh, no! She’s going to die soon!”

“Oh, no! We have a thunderstorm, so a tornado is likely to hit!

“I’m afraid to drive a car because I could have an accident and die!”

“My kid is not studying! He’s going to make bad grades!”

“Oh, no! China is mad at us and is likely to invade us!”

There’s nothing wrong with being concerned over something if there’s a threat. But freaking out over it as if it’s the end of the world doesn’t help matters any.

No one is saying that you should put on rose-colored glasses and pretend that everything’s peachy king because to go to the opposite extreme is just as dangerous. Not that I’m putting anyone down, but running out and buying a five-year supply of toilet paper like so many did when the pandemic first hit was a bit extreme. There’s a healthy middle we should stay in when it comes to worry. I could understand stockpiling things like food and medical supplies and maybe cleaning supplies. But toilet paper?

But, ‘you see? That’s what excessive worry does to people. It causes them to make irrational decisions.

Studies show that over half the things we incessantly worry about never end up coming true. So, again. Should we worry needlessly and excessively?

Understand that excessive worry only stops us from being able to think clearly and blocks our ability to make good choices and decisions. If we’re too worried, we’re more likely to make the wrong decisions to try and contain a perceived threat. Also, it lessens our capacity to focus on real problems.

But if we lessen our worry, we’re more likely to come up with better solutions to our problems.

And the best part is, if we train ourselves not to worry excessively, we’ll have more happiness and peace of mind.

With knowledge comes empowerment!

60 thoughts on “Stop Worrying About the Future and Enjoy the Here and Now

  1. I agree to it, nd that stock piling of thing was extreme even we stock piled the junks and handwashes during pandemic that was to a more extreme level, hence I could get since worrying is second nature if you try something new. Really we should calm our worries. 🙏🙏

    • You’re absolutely right! It’s okay to prepare for hard times. But we should be sensible about it. Thank you so much for your lovely comment! 💞💞💞

      • Yes, I find that sometimes I also overthink things. One time I thought I lost on a business proposal because of my incompetence, but later I found out the client’s limited budget was the issue.

        • I know that was a relief when you found out about the budget issues, Vanya. We are our own worst critics. Many of us have a habit of thinking we’re not smart enough, not good enough, pretty enough, strong enough. You only underestimated yourself. 💖🌺🌷🦋

          • It also helps to ask for feedback. The comment I got was a cold, “the proposal does not meet client expectations because they want more …….” So I asked for clarification about this (…..) and realized the issue wasn’t my proposal.

  2. This makes me think of the Tame Impala song “Lost in Yesterday” — PTSD causes us to re-live things over and over we cannot un-see nor unfeel. I found their song reassuring and resonating here.

  3. I used to get called a ‘worry guts’ by my nan when she was alive. She was right, though – I was a constant worrier. It was about all the childhood and adolescent issues that seemed so huge. I had PTSD from my abuse (I still do, but not so severely, thankfully.) I still tend to worry but not as badly as I used to. Practice makes perfect, and I’m not one to give up easily.

    We had the whole loo roll issue when the pandemic began too. White bread (amongst other things) was being bought up for some absurd reason too! Over here, those people were called the white bread and loo roll brigade! Crazy people.

  4. Oh girlfriend, you broke this bad boy down to the bone! 🤜🏼🤛🏼 I have to agree with your overall message, “Excessive worry causes people to make irrational decisions.” We are human and fear can naturally ease on into our comfort zones, but somehow fear has been glamourized in the word “phobias” and thus it feels like we are somehow normalizing this condition like an accessory piece. UGH! 😝 Thanks so much for sharing dawwwwlinkkkkk!!! 🤗💋😘💖🥰

  5. I recently had to learn not worry too much over everything. When my blood pressure shot up reality hit me that if I don’t calm down I might be put on blood pressure medications.

    • Thank you so much, girl! This post was originally written last year but I had some things to add to it this time around so I had to revamp it. I so appreciate your love and support and I’m honored to have met such wonderful people on WordPress. 💖💖💖

  6. So very true- ” we train ourselves not to worry excessively, we’ll have more happiness and peace of mind” OMG! YES!! I stole an approach to worrying less over ten years ago and it has given me peace- “will it still really matter in 48 hrs?” Usually not- and beisdes the worry was just causing me to be frantic. Now I let go and let God and that sure helps.

    • Thank you so much, Kim! “will it still really matter in 48 hrs?” Awesome question and way to get rid of worry, sweetie! I love that idea and I’ll definitely adopt it for myself! Again, thank you! 💖🌺🌹🌞🕊️

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